Is it ok for a female to be friends with a married male? I don't think there is anything wrong with it, but there is this guy at work. He is just acting wierd about it. Pretty much all my friends are married whether they are boys or girls. I have always been friendly towards him, talk to him, whatever. Then he sends me this email :
"Does it bother you that I am married. Blah blah blah.. I only use this email to talk to you and for school".
Blaring red flag there
WTF what does this guy think is going on here. It bugged me out so I pretty much stopped being interacting to him. But I have to interact with him, because we work together but now I am very wary. Yesterday he told me to call him at 6pm. So I called, the phone rang for a while and no answer. I am not sure why he wanted me to call him, but maybe to apologize for texting me at 11:51pm the night before a race. So I figure I am in the clear, I have made the friendly effort. He then called me 3 times, texted me twice, and emailed me. The voice mail he left was all, "how are we going to communicate if you don't pick up the phone? I'm proud of you for running that race, sorry I texting you so late my phone was glitching I really texting you around 7pm" and the email says "Make sure replace you electrolytes.. blah blah eat a banana whatever.. take care of yourself so I can see your pretty face at work". I got red flags going up all over the place now, not to mention he invites me to lunch everyday to which I decline. Maybe I am just being paranoid.
I know married guys who come off as flirtatious and it doesn't wierd me out, but there is just something wrong going on here. I just get a wierd feeling from it. Maybe life has just made me into a hermit who can't successfully interact with anyone. I am not really sure. What do you think? am I overreacting?
"Does it bother you that I am married. Blah blah blah.. I only use this email to talk to you and for school".
Blaring red flag there
WTF what does this guy think is going on here. It bugged me out so I pretty much stopped being interacting to him. But I have to interact with him, because we work together but now I am very wary. Yesterday he told me to call him at 6pm. So I called, the phone rang for a while and no answer. I am not sure why he wanted me to call him, but maybe to apologize for texting me at 11:51pm the night before a race. So I figure I am in the clear, I have made the friendly effort. He then called me 3 times, texted me twice, and emailed me. The voice mail he left was all, "how are we going to communicate if you don't pick up the phone? I'm proud of you for running that race, sorry I texting you so late my phone was glitching I really texting you around 7pm" and the email says "Make sure replace you electrolytes.. blah blah eat a banana whatever.. take care of yourself so I can see your pretty face at work". I got red flags going up all over the place now, not to mention he invites me to lunch everyday to which I decline. Maybe I am just being paranoid.
I know married guys who come off as flirtatious and it doesn't wierd me out, but there is just something wrong going on here. I just get a wierd feeling from it. Maybe life has just made me into a hermit who can't successfully interact with anyone. I am not really sure. What do you think? am I overreacting?
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jeanbean:
Sounds like HE is the one with issues. I agree, red flag city.
diablo68:
Trust your senses with this one. He is slowly pushing the boundaries farther with each interaction. Who's to say how far he wants to go, but he is laying the groundwork for an affair (not that you would be the one to participate).