#homework When did you officially know you had become an "adult"? by Lollaax

When did you officially know you had become an "adult"?

Hello everyone! I was a bit offline these days, I'm sorry :( I was full of personal things to solve and a lot of work to do and I could not do anything else.

Well, this week we're going to talk about the process of becoming an adult.

I think the people here do not know but I've been married twice. Once when I was 18 years old and again when I was 21 years old.

The hardest part of getting out of my parents' home and moving in with someone else is having to let go of everything you knew, all of your routine, and start over. You have to recreate your life along with the other person and it is not always easy. Each one does things in a way, has a way of seeing the world .... And these are things that you only see when you live with someone else.

When we grow up we learn through movies, books, series, fathers and uncles, a dating is a certain standard way: a couple, a promise of eternal love, a vow of fidelity ... And anything out of this pattern is seen as a test That it was not real love.

When I came to believe that being happy alone is a great step in being able to be happy together, I did not place the responsibility of my happiness on the other person's account, removing the great fear of loneliness, the fear of detachment, the fear of abandonment. Being happy alone is learning to love yourself. Schoppenhauer once said, "Each can only be himself, entirely, only by the time he is alone. Who, therefore, does not love solitude, does not love freedom either. "That phrase made me think, and what I seek for life is this freedom and completeness, but accompanied!

Part of the process of becoming an adult is dealing with the loneliness of things. You work alone, cook by yourself, pay the bills alone and sometimes it is very difficult to go to sleep alone, too. But it's also a daily win when you can accomplish at least half of your to-do list tasks alone ...

... and have a whole bed just for you later.

thank you for reading this far