When we grow up we learn through movies, books, series, fathers and uncles, a dating is a certain standard way: a couple, a promise of eternal love, a vow of fidelity ... And anything out of this pattern is seen as a test That it was not real love.

When I came to believe that being happy alone is a great step in being able to be happy together, I did not place the responsibility of my happiness on the other person's account, removing the great fear of loneliness, the fear of detachment, the fear of abandonment. Being happy alone is learning to love yourself. Schoppenhauer once said, "Each can only be himself, entirely, only by the time he is alone. Who, therefore, does not love solitude, does not love freedom either. "That phrase made me think, and what I seek for life is this freedom and completeness, but accompanied!

Part of the process of becoming an adult is dealing with the loneliness of things. You work alone, cook by yourself, pay the bills alone and sometimes it is very difficult to go to sleep alone, too. But it's also a daily win when you can accomplish at least half of your to-do list tasks alone ...

... and have a whole bed just for you later.