Over Thanksgiving, my parents asked, as they always do, whether I have a boyfriend. I don't want to be hassled by them. When they ask me and cite reasons like "We want you to be happy" and "We don't want you to be alone," I feel bad about myself. No matter how many times I ask them not to ask me, tell them my relationship status and my happiness are not directly related, tell them I have plenty of friends, they don't get it, and I feel like they're implying I'm incomplete or something is wrong with me. I always feel like something is wrong with me anyway, so it hurts.
Besides, I don't know if I have a boyfriend. I probably do. I keep avoiding talking about it with the guy I've been seeing for the past few months.
Besides, I don't know if I have a boyfriend. I probably do. I keep avoiding talking about it with the guy I've been seeing for the past few months.
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As creamcuffs points out, they ask because they care but they're trying to impose they're value system on you in the process. That, seems to me, is the real issue.
You're beautiful, highly intelligent, accomplished well beyond the norm and have friends and a lover. That's far richer than most of the population by all the measurements that count.
I know it's hard, but try to let what they ask you in one ear and out the other.