Since my brain is not that active by itself, sometimes I need that somebody that matters to me to say something to make me think - what, by the way, shows how much genetic material my parents wasted making my brain.
How much matters to you the age, social position, height/weight, color/ethenicity/racial background of your partner/lover/love, and what people think of you when you're together? I mean, not the drive-through, fast-food answers, but what you REALLY feel and think about this?
I the fastest move of my mind in the last 29 years, I spent this whole day thinking about this. Hell, I've been in this situations before, so what came up of this? I'm not proud of all the answers, but once it can possibly make me a better person (and since all this cerebral activity couldn't be kept just for me), I decided that it's worth to be write down.
- I don't care about age at all, since my partner is fisically, mentally and sentimentally able to keep up with me;
- I do care about different social classes, if the girl is "above" me. It make me feel like everybody is staring and thinking "this guy is trying to get an easy life through her". It makes me feel dirty and shamefull (keep in mind that I came from the country with the hugest gap between richs and poors in the world);
- I like black girls very much, almost as much as asians - but I know that it would be hard to get married to one, v.g., because I know how my family thinks about them. I guess it was the worst thing that I discovered about myself since, well, forever. It will take a lot of work to get better.
In the other side, I would be very, very proud of have an Asian girl as my wife. I probably have to thanks the excelent reputations of Japanese people in Brazil for that (I'm not saying that every Asian is Japanese or Japanese-alike, please!);
- I simply don't care at all about my lovers height. But I get mad when someone acts like I don't deserve a girl just because she 10 cm bigger than me. Or 20 cm. Whatever. Anyway, though I don't care about girl a little havier than she "should be", I got a issue skinny one. I mean, be thin is not exactly bad, but the "model" model, kinda anorexic one, just turn me off... when I, myself, am quite thin, too. Too bad, so sad.
^^**^^
What's a whore? By definition, is somebody that agree to have sex to someone else, regardeless reciprocal attraction, in exchange of a money fee. Or if you permit me to enlarge the definition, in exchange of a fee, period.
I don't know about you, but to me, the point that caracterize someone as a whore is the reciprocal attraction. Think about this: where is the evil of take money from someone whom you would like to fuck anyway if this person offers you money to do it? Of course, you wouldn't ask for this money, but if the person offers it... why not? I'm too "good-boy" to first visualize this situation, but since I did, I can't find a way to say that it is wrong.
What do you think?
**^^**
Why does a guy that like one girl call her a whore for sleeping with other men when he does the same with other girls? It is a way of put himself in a higher level and put himself aside the obligation of give her satisfaction. Tortuous? Maybe. But think about this: the most sensitive part of an human being is its Ego. For men, keep their Ego on balance is highly conected with be good on bed. Or, at least, be able of convince the women that they fuck of this. The much men his girl fucked before him, the more acureted will be her comparison rate will be and more likely she'll realize how little good he is. As a deffensive maneuver, he can call her a "whore", what will drop his anxiety, since nobody is supouse to be bond to a whore satisfaction; he doesn't have de obligation of be "good" and she doesn't have the right to ask him so.
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Ok, I'm going to my bed before I lose my brain's warranty by misuse. It wasn't make to think, ya know... ;-)
XOXO,
LA
Hey, people, don't miss Antony's photoset for nothing, it is GORGEUS!
How much matters to you the age, social position, height/weight, color/ethenicity/racial background of your partner/lover/love, and what people think of you when you're together? I mean, not the drive-through, fast-food answers, but what you REALLY feel and think about this?
I the fastest move of my mind in the last 29 years, I spent this whole day thinking about this. Hell, I've been in this situations before, so what came up of this? I'm not proud of all the answers, but once it can possibly make me a better person (and since all this cerebral activity couldn't be kept just for me), I decided that it's worth to be write down.
- I don't care about age at all, since my partner is fisically, mentally and sentimentally able to keep up with me;
- I do care about different social classes, if the girl is "above" me. It make me feel like everybody is staring and thinking "this guy is trying to get an easy life through her". It makes me feel dirty and shamefull (keep in mind that I came from the country with the hugest gap between richs and poors in the world);
- I like black girls very much, almost as much as asians - but I know that it would be hard to get married to one, v.g., because I know how my family thinks about them. I guess it was the worst thing that I discovered about myself since, well, forever. It will take a lot of work to get better.
In the other side, I would be very, very proud of have an Asian girl as my wife. I probably have to thanks the excelent reputations of Japanese people in Brazil for that (I'm not saying that every Asian is Japanese or Japanese-alike, please!);
- I simply don't care at all about my lovers height. But I get mad when someone acts like I don't deserve a girl just because she 10 cm bigger than me. Or 20 cm. Whatever. Anyway, though I don't care about girl a little havier than she "should be", I got a issue skinny one. I mean, be thin is not exactly bad, but the "model" model, kinda anorexic one, just turn me off... when I, myself, am quite thin, too. Too bad, so sad.
^^**^^
What's a whore? By definition, is somebody that agree to have sex to someone else, regardeless reciprocal attraction, in exchange of a money fee. Or if you permit me to enlarge the definition, in exchange of a fee, period.
I don't know about you, but to me, the point that caracterize someone as a whore is the reciprocal attraction. Think about this: where is the evil of take money from someone whom you would like to fuck anyway if this person offers you money to do it? Of course, you wouldn't ask for this money, but if the person offers it... why not? I'm too "good-boy" to first visualize this situation, but since I did, I can't find a way to say that it is wrong.
What do you think?
**^^**
Why does a guy that like one girl call her a whore for sleeping with other men when he does the same with other girls? It is a way of put himself in a higher level and put himself aside the obligation of give her satisfaction. Tortuous? Maybe. But think about this: the most sensitive part of an human being is its Ego. For men, keep their Ego on balance is highly conected with be good on bed. Or, at least, be able of convince the women that they fuck of this. The much men his girl fucked before him, the more acureted will be her comparison rate will be and more likely she'll realize how little good he is. As a deffensive maneuver, he can call her a "whore", what will drop his anxiety, since nobody is supouse to be bond to a whore satisfaction; he doesn't have de obligation of be "good" and she doesn't have the right to ask him so.
*********************
Ok, I'm going to my bed before I lose my brain's warranty by misuse. It wasn't make to think, ya know... ;-)
XOXO,
LA
Hey, people, don't miss Antony's photoset for nothing, it is GORGEUS!
How much matters to you the age, social position, height/weight, color/ethenicity/racial background of your partner/lover/love, and what people think of you when you're together? I mean, not the drive-through, fast-food answers, but what you REALLY feel and think about this?
Age: I prefer older, just because I find guys that are younger or my age are way to fucking immature for me. Take asreal, for example, he's four years older than me. I do agree with them needing to keep up with me.
Social Position: Hmmm... you know, I don't think it has to do with a job so much, but rather, their education level. I even wouldn't mind if I worked and my husband would be a stay at home dad. I don't think it is fair for a girl to sacrifice a good job or good schooling because she wants to be "less" than the guy.
And believe me, my sister is like this... she's postponing her graduation because she wants her bf to graduate first from University. It's a big status thing.... I think it's stupid.
Height/Weight: It really depends how the guy handles it. Height and weight don't really matter to me, but if he's going to be short and have small man syndrome (trying to be tougher or an asshole to make him a 'bigger man') or he's always self conscious about his weight, then I don't like it. The shortest guy I have dated is 5'7"... and he was an ass.
The tallest I have dated is 6'2", which is a foot taller than me. Kinda makes kissing funny.
But it is good when someone takes care of themselves. It's a good turn-on when someone looks good because they eat healthy and work out too. It's awesome to have an ACTIVE boy
BUT then again, if it is too extreme (which Mr. Shortman was) -- then it is HORRIBLE. Going to the gym 4-5 days a week, eating protein bars and shaving arm and chest hair to look bigger...
Ethnicity: It really really doesn't matter to me. I've never dated an asian. I've dated all sorts of backgrounds of white guys though- German, Russian, Swiss, Ukranian, and Irish/Scottish. I've had crushes on basically every race-- even asian, believe it or not.
I think it mostly depends on how family reacts to it. At first, one of my bf's dads didnt like me because I wasn't white. But whatever. He got to know me and then he REALLY liked me.
What I don't like is when people just like someone BECAUSE of their race. So watch it Mr. Logan. Or you'll get in trouble.
One time this guy wanted to date me because I was asian... he thought I would be the typical asian girl, and BOY was he WRONG. He's such an asshole. I swear if I EVER see him again, I will kick his ass. HARD.
What do people think when asreal and I are together? His friends think we're cute, My friends say that he's a good match for me, and when we are out and about just walking around, no one doesnt say anything. I think interracial dating is common in Calgary.
Just wait til we go out to the Maritimes.. where there are NO asians... hahahah it will be interesting.
Actually, when I went to BC last summer with a previous bf, I did notice some weird looks because the only asians out there were Exchange Students.. oh well.
Hope that answers all your questions.
[Edited on Apr 01, 2005 9:59AM]