on my mind...and so begins the good old fashioned writing as therapy...
so recently i've been sort of screwed over by a friend. damn. it was someone that i really respected and spoke quite highly of. super intelligent. kind. well mannered. a good person all around. we were involved romantically...however very brief...so our relationship goes from a courtship to a real live friendship to intimacy to shit, i'm suddenly his secertery/networking connection...being the magnanimous young woman i am i think i can still be his friend...as he was very interesting and considerate...blah blah blah...but now...well, i think he's embarassed because i called him on everything. i know i'm being so vague...but i guess i'm finding the answer i was looking for when i began to write this.
the guy, brilliant as he is...is emotionally immature and more self-absorbed than myself...it's true. oh well. we live, we learn...
so recently i've been sort of screwed over by a friend. damn. it was someone that i really respected and spoke quite highly of. super intelligent. kind. well mannered. a good person all around. we were involved romantically...however very brief...so our relationship goes from a courtship to a real live friendship to intimacy to shit, i'm suddenly his secertery/networking connection...being the magnanimous young woman i am i think i can still be his friend...as he was very interesting and considerate...blah blah blah...but now...well, i think he's embarassed because i called him on everything. i know i'm being so vague...but i guess i'm finding the answer i was looking for when i began to write this.
the guy, brilliant as he is...is emotionally immature and more self-absorbed than myself...it's true. oh well. we live, we learn...
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The longer and more complicated the history between the two people the harder it is to just decide "I'm done with this; I'm writing this person off." But it can also be liberating and good for the self-esteem, rather that allowing them to keep making you feel bad .
A dear friend of mine recently went through this process with her best friend since childhood, who for years has been nothing but vicious and critical. My friend spent weeks deliberating about it, tried to talk to her, got shat on some more, and finally sat down and wrote a big letter that pretty much said "I'm not going to be your friend any more." She mailed it off and that was that. Painful but necessary.
Good luck. You deserve friends who respect you.
Crime novels are fun to write because there aren't any good guys, just shades of grey.