OK so it's Jacqui's 21st birthday on Tuesday and she is having a big night out for it tonight. Originally I was invited, and I wa told to invite a few of my male friends whom she has met. She then decided she wanted a girly night out and therefore I was uninvited and so were all my friends. It annoyed me as she is supposedly a good friend to me (although I doubt that fact more and more each day) but I let it go cos it's up to her. Not I kinda suspected that this wasn't the real reason that I was uninvited but I never said anything.
Now I have just found out from Liz that the reason I am not going is because Jacqui's boyfriend is going., This pisses me off no end because firstly I hate being lied to and secondly because yesterday I found out that she hasn't even told him that we are friends. He thinks we just work with each other. So anytime she has spent with me outside of work he is unaware of. I really don't comprehend why she is doing this. Fair enough she's not going to tell him what has gone on with us, but this is just pissing me off and making me feel like I am now being fucked about again.
Now I have just found out from Liz that the reason I am not going is because Jacqui's boyfriend is going., This pisses me off no end because firstly I hate being lied to and secondly because yesterday I found out that she hasn't even told him that we are friends. He thinks we just work with each other. So anytime she has spent with me outside of work he is unaware of. I really don't comprehend why she is doing this. Fair enough she's not going to tell him what has gone on with us, but this is just pissing me off and making me feel like I am now being fucked about again.
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I know you're hung up on her, but she sounds like a bit of a player.
Its hard to distance yourself from how it makes you feel..but its her problem not yours.
If it makes you feel better, ask her to be honest with him about any future meetings outside of work times, but dont beat yourself up about the things that you cant change.
I have friends that are 'players' of both sexes, and I've just had to learn to accept that this is just part of their personality, and if you want to keep being friends with them, you accept it.
Of course, if you want more then its harder, because people like that rarely change, and you have to decide how much hurt you can cope with.
hope you feel more positive soon.
hugs.
Nothing in life is simple, so why do we keep trying to find the easy way?
oh..and Yay me..I Rool ok.
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