But there is a person whose harmonious voice marks his speech with a charm that is equally widespread in his manners. He knows when to speak and when to stay silent, takes a tactful interest in you, employs only appropriate subhects for conversation; his words are well chosen; his language is pure; his mockery flatters, and his criticism does not offend.
Far from being at variance from you with the ignorant self-assurance of a fool, he seems to seek in your company good sense or truth. He does not hold forth any more than he fights; he takes pleasure in leading a discussion that he brings to the end at the right moment. Even-tempered, his manner is affable and pleasant. There is nothing forced about his courtesy, his attentiveness is not the slight bit servile; he reduces respect to nothing more than a gentle shadow; he never tires you, and leaves you feeling pleased with him and yourself.
Led into his sphere through an inexplicable magnetism, you will recall his spirit of good grace imprinted on the things that surround him; everything about him delights the eye and allows you to breathe as if it were the air of your homeland. In private life, this person charms you with an innocent tone. He is unaffected. Never any effort, any excessive display of wealth, any flaunting; his feelings are rendered simply because they are real. He is frank, and never offends another`s pride.
He accepts men as God does, forgiving faults and silly ways, understanding every age and never feeling any irritation, because he is tactful enough to anticipate anything. He obliges you to him before consoling, he is loving and cheerful, and so you will love him irresistibly. You take him for a classic example and devote a cult to him.
This person has divine and concomitant grace. - Honore de Balzac
