So tomorrow i pick my little sister up from the Airport.
She is visiting for two weeks from the UK.
Now here is the thing, i also have an older sister and a younger brother who live in the USA too.
Last time my little sister was up my older sister went into 'competition' mode and no matter who was chatting with my little sister, my older sister would step in and try to snatch her away or try to become part of the conversation in an obnoxiously loud way.
So of course this time around, i wanted it not to be competition mode. I wanted it to be family time and that was it.
Not to mention Last time My little sister was here, with my father, i was 5 weeks pregnant and suffered a miscarriage 3 days into their arrival so i was withdrawn and pissy. I didn't want to be around anyone, i was upset and it obviously showed.
So three days ago, my big sister calls me (after 6 weeks of not calling) and demands to come to the airport. She doesn't drive, has no car, hasn't seen her kid in 3 weeks, and has admitedly gone into 'party mode' because she doesn't have her kid (can't pick her up so no visitation)
I say fine but we were going to stop and grab chai so i could chat to my little sister about last times events, and explain why i was so 'out of it'
She flips out, calls me names, says i'm a bitch and am trying to take my little sister away, goes off for a good 20 mins. I try to get a word in edgeways and she says i have 'anger problems' because i was raising my voice.
She then said that I'm emotionally unstable because at this point i had started to cry because she doesn't know about the miscarriage, and starts saying shit like I ruined everything last time, i was the jealous one, i showed my anger, i don't care about anyone, i should never have kids, i'm lucky i have no one to look after but myself and i'm even doing a lousy job at that.
Fuck.
I don't even want to tell her now. There is no point. She knows where to hit me so it hurts, really hurts.
She is my sister and will always be, but i sure as HELL don't have to like her as a friend.
It's so frustrating.
Sorry for the rant
She is visiting for two weeks from the UK.
Now here is the thing, i also have an older sister and a younger brother who live in the USA too.
Last time my little sister was up my older sister went into 'competition' mode and no matter who was chatting with my little sister, my older sister would step in and try to snatch her away or try to become part of the conversation in an obnoxiously loud way.
So of course this time around, i wanted it not to be competition mode. I wanted it to be family time and that was it.
Not to mention Last time My little sister was here, with my father, i was 5 weeks pregnant and suffered a miscarriage 3 days into their arrival so i was withdrawn and pissy. I didn't want to be around anyone, i was upset and it obviously showed.
So three days ago, my big sister calls me (after 6 weeks of not calling) and demands to come to the airport. She doesn't drive, has no car, hasn't seen her kid in 3 weeks, and has admitedly gone into 'party mode' because she doesn't have her kid (can't pick her up so no visitation)
I say fine but we were going to stop and grab chai so i could chat to my little sister about last times events, and explain why i was so 'out of it'
She flips out, calls me names, says i'm a bitch and am trying to take my little sister away, goes off for a good 20 mins. I try to get a word in edgeways and she says i have 'anger problems' because i was raising my voice.
She then said that I'm emotionally unstable because at this point i had started to cry because she doesn't know about the miscarriage, and starts saying shit like I ruined everything last time, i was the jealous one, i showed my anger, i don't care about anyone, i should never have kids, i'm lucky i have no one to look after but myself and i'm even doing a lousy job at that.
Fuck.
I don't even want to tell her now. There is no point. She knows where to hit me so it hurts, really hurts.
She is my sister and will always be, but i sure as HELL don't have to like her as a friend.
It's so frustrating.
Sorry for the rant
cro154:
This is the perfect place to rant Lady. No one says you have to get along w/ family. If we got along w/ them we'd call them friends. Hope you have a good visit w/ your other sis.