I am: Straight, divorced male, 38, slender, have been described by persons not related by blood as handsome. Babyface - frequently mistaken for late 20's. Professional. Total atheist. An engineer. Smart, funny, good conversationalist, absolutely driven and critical. So polite, I am occasionally mistaken for gay. I have never consumed an illicit drug, or tobacco in any form. I drink socially infrequently.

I am into: I am a single father. Mostly, I spend my days trying to be the perfect engineer and my evenings trying to be the perfect dad. This is my joy; this is my pain. I get a little slice of time evenings and every other weekend to do what I am "into". Which is: Making my home beautiful; watching movies; gaming with my friends; practicing fire poi; putting up with obnoxious cigarette smoke and going to goth clubs to dance; ditto rock 'n roll; baking; reading; playing games; walking; talking; backpacking. For me, conversation forms the heart of a relationship. Add games, sex, and mutual support and you're really onto something.

Once at an SCA event I heard a voice in the darkness: "Wow, you've got the brightest aura I've ever seen!" Acting without thinking, I swiveled toward the voice and bellowed into the night "No you idiot - he's ON FIRE!"

I am looking for: I am available for casual relationships with vastly relaxed standards from those listed below. I will go dancing, or enjoy dinner and conversation, with almost anyone. However I am on the lookout for a long-term, commitment relationship. Someone young and attractive who is emotionally accessible and capable of giving and accepting love in a mutually supportive relationship. I am not looking for a new mother for my children - they already have one - but rather someone who can integrate into what is already a rewarding life so that joy may be increased all around. Someone who has her own interests and is respectful of my commitments, but who enjoys squeezing quality time into our schedules. I am attracted to "alternative" beauties: goths and hippies - but am unlikely to forge a lasting bond with someone unless she is educated, articulate, on a professional career path, and not religious in any way. I am highly critical of recreational drug use. Smoking and occasional drinking are OK. I understand that I have over-constrained the problem and excluded everyone who will ever read this in one way or another. Let me just say that I understand that humans come in all flavors and if you see enough here to suspect that we may form a meaningful dialogue, then by all means contact me. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

I forgot to mention: I'm a demon in the sack.