Sorry to all my friends on here that I havent been around to comment on blogs and such.....
Found out Tuesday that my mother in law(that me and my hubby take care of cause her mental illness and who lives with us) has cancer....Been really busy taking care of her and being at the hospital for test and stuff.....She has a tumor on her left lung,one pressing against her trachia,2 tumors on her brain, in her kidneys,liver and breast, The doctor said it is small cell carsanoma and that it is a very aggressive cancer. Radiation starts on Monday which is her birthday, kinda sucky. they are starting radiation on the brain tumors cause they want to save her brain function and mind and her being able to physically do things. Then we have to speak to a different doctor about chemo.....really havent made a decision about chemo yet. Cause I saw my Grandma go through it and all it did was make her sick and not herself and I feel it just took her faster. We have decided we are going to see how the radiation goes and then talk to the chemo doc and ask questions and get more info and go from there. So I have been spending all day at the hospital cause she was admitted there for them to get test and things done. And then when I am not there I am home taking care of things here. and of course I still have to work I have bills to pay. I am pretty stressed and worn out. I feel like if I am home all the phone does is ring and ring and people texting me constantly. I am sick of talking about it and repeating myself so I have started ignoring calls and text. My friends are gonna have to understand. I am really only staying in contact with my two best friends and my parents right now. Other then that i just dont want to do it. If people dont understand they can bite me honestly. So Monday is her birthday and it will probably be the last she has with us so we are spending it with her at the hospital and taking her cake and dinner from a nice restraunt. My concern right now is her being comfortable and being taken care of.....The decisions are so hard but they have to be made, My hubby has Power of Attorney over her so a lot of it is on him but of course it is something we both discuss and make the decision. I just hope I am strong enough to go through this. I am so worried about funeral and stuff, we are young and dont have that kind of money saved. Her sister who has been there through all of it with us so far has offered to pay for her whole funeral if need be but I really dont want to put it all on her. I dont feel right doing that.So I have thought about doing a memorial fund at a bank and maybe fundraisers or something....I have always got into contact with the American Cancer Society and I am just basically getting myself educated right now. Reading all sorts of info on cancer and chemo and radiation just so we know what to expect
Me and my hubby took care of his brother and sister since they were 9 and 10. they are 18 and 20 now and still live with us. He took over guardianship of them when their dad passed and of course their mother has a mental illness and cant take care of them. so he stepped up. Right now it is hard on them both and I just need to stay strong not only for their mother but them too. I will admit I have times where I am depressed and stuff. But we are all staying positive and dont show her that we are upset....we have been having fun at the hospital and just keeping things light.
So there is the story on where I have been....I may be gone for a while. I miss everyone here....I should start a donation fund on here for her funeral...I have been thinking about it. Is there anyone on here that will donate?
Found out Tuesday that my mother in law(that me and my hubby take care of cause her mental illness and who lives with us) has cancer....Been really busy taking care of her and being at the hospital for test and stuff.....She has a tumor on her left lung,one pressing against her trachia,2 tumors on her brain, in her kidneys,liver and breast, The doctor said it is small cell carsanoma and that it is a very aggressive cancer. Radiation starts on Monday which is her birthday, kinda sucky. they are starting radiation on the brain tumors cause they want to save her brain function and mind and her being able to physically do things. Then we have to speak to a different doctor about chemo.....really havent made a decision about chemo yet. Cause I saw my Grandma go through it and all it did was make her sick and not herself and I feel it just took her faster. We have decided we are going to see how the radiation goes and then talk to the chemo doc and ask questions and get more info and go from there. So I have been spending all day at the hospital cause she was admitted there for them to get test and things done. And then when I am not there I am home taking care of things here. and of course I still have to work I have bills to pay. I am pretty stressed and worn out. I feel like if I am home all the phone does is ring and ring and people texting me constantly. I am sick of talking about it and repeating myself so I have started ignoring calls and text. My friends are gonna have to understand. I am really only staying in contact with my two best friends and my parents right now. Other then that i just dont want to do it. If people dont understand they can bite me honestly. So Monday is her birthday and it will probably be the last she has with us so we are spending it with her at the hospital and taking her cake and dinner from a nice restraunt. My concern right now is her being comfortable and being taken care of.....The decisions are so hard but they have to be made, My hubby has Power of Attorney over her so a lot of it is on him but of course it is something we both discuss and make the decision. I just hope I am strong enough to go through this. I am so worried about funeral and stuff, we are young and dont have that kind of money saved. Her sister who has been there through all of it with us so far has offered to pay for her whole funeral if need be but I really dont want to put it all on her. I dont feel right doing that.So I have thought about doing a memorial fund at a bank and maybe fundraisers or something....I have always got into contact with the American Cancer Society and I am just basically getting myself educated right now. Reading all sorts of info on cancer and chemo and radiation just so we know what to expect
Me and my hubby took care of his brother and sister since they were 9 and 10. they are 18 and 20 now and still live with us. He took over guardianship of them when their dad passed and of course their mother has a mental illness and cant take care of them. so he stepped up. Right now it is hard on them both and I just need to stay strong not only for their mother but them too. I will admit I have times where I am depressed and stuff. But we are all staying positive and dont show her that we are upset....we have been having fun at the hospital and just keeping things light.
So there is the story on where I have been....I may be gone for a while. I miss everyone here....I should start a donation fund on here for her funeral...I have been thinking about it. Is there anyone on here that will donate?
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i'm really sorry, i really do hope she is going to be ok, a lot of people beat it, i hope she is one of them.