So, it happened again. The girl child, after enduring nearly a month of grounding (to include the times she spends at her father's house in Cali.) convinced her step-father to convince me that she should be given early release based upon her own recognizance. It was granted, under the terms that she pay back those three early release days when she returned to her Coloradoland....
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We completed LOST today. 6 weeks of good time spent for a big fat meh. I knew it was going to be a big fat meh. I had been forewarned tirelessly. And yet, I am still disappointed and let down. Maybe it is all a simple metaphor for parenting.
ink_addicted:
I know what you mean even though LOST wasn't my show. 10 years of Stargate SG-1 and pffft. They all end with a wimper.
Try Firefly for free on Netflix. They made a movie called Serenity (the name of the ship) to close it off. Harsh.
Try Firefly for free on Netflix. They made a movie called Serenity (the name of the ship) to close it off. Harsh.
stcyr:
No, no! Parenting has this marvelous, awe-inspiring, kick ass finale. The kids become self-actualized and motivated, they move out, get good jobs, and have wonderful relationships. But they are so grateful for all the sacrifices and hard work that youve put in for them, they remain forever close to you - - and - - ask you to look after their children while theyre . . .
NO. Wait! Thats not it . . .
No, they buy you a home in Maui - - or Prague - - or Valencia, where they can come vacation over the winter holidays, and youre happy to look after the grandchildren for those two weeks . . .
Yes, thats more like it.
NO. Wait! Thats not it . . .
No, they buy you a home in Maui - - or Prague - - or Valencia, where they can come vacation over the winter holidays, and youre happy to look after the grandchildren for those two weeks . . .
Yes, thats more like it.
I just want a space and a place to call my own once in awhile. I cannot take the incessant and never ending chatter of the beings around me some days. I want quiet. I want five fucking minutes to my self to literally walk through all the shit in my brain that gets shoved aside by all the goddamned chatter. I love them. Unconditionally....
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ink_addicted:
It'll really be official in less than 8 weeks. I'll be half a century.
Hang in there. You've got a way to go yet.
Hang in there. You've got a way to go yet.
stcyr:
uhm . . . thanks (?)
We were talking about how the music festivals used to be the SUPREME MOST AMAZING SHOW EVER TO GO TO when we were youthful. Pre kids. Pre responsibility. Pre rent. Pre bills. And how,reading the lineup forBOONAROO just didn't speak to me.
For one (and I apologize because I know this will offend) I am not all that jazzed about going South of the...
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stcyr:
Hey!
Actually, I can empathize. There is much in Southern "culture" to loath and detest. There are a few bright spots - - mainly culinary & that certain "laid back" relaxed pace to life - - but in general, aye, it's pretty shameful. However, I could say the same for many parts of this country. There are plenty of rednecks all across this land. Shame, it's not just for Southerners anymore.
I also agree as to the music festival scene. It ain't what it used to be. There are exceptions of course, but whenever you get stadium/arena bands together, it's just a huge outdoor arena show, *ugh*
Actually, I can empathize. There is much in Southern "culture" to loath and detest. There are a few bright spots - - mainly culinary & that certain "laid back" relaxed pace to life - - but in general, aye, it's pretty shameful. However, I could say the same for many parts of this country. There are plenty of rednecks all across this land. Shame, it's not just for Southerners anymore.
I also agree as to the music festival scene. It ain't what it used to be. There are exceptions of course, but whenever you get stadium/arena bands together, it's just a huge outdoor arena show, *ugh*
In exactly two weeks we are going to see Rollins. I am beyond excited. I have grown up with Rollins. During the prime years of my punk fetish I followed Black Flag's every move.
While I don't always agree with what he has to say, I completely respect his well thought out and researched opinions. It is the off the cuff shit so many artists...
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While I don't always agree with what he has to say, I completely respect his well thought out and researched opinions. It is the off the cuff shit so many artists...
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stcyr:
Enjoy the show! As I'm sure you could guess, I'm a fan as well. I've never watched his show, but . . . yeah, he's pretty much an icon for our generation. Again, have a blast.
I love musicals. Love with a capital LOVE. I also have been known to dig on a rock opera or two (not TOMMY though - I was forever damaged as a young girl of only 7 years old when my mother took me to see The Who's "Tommy" at the drive-in...baked bean nightmares for WEEKS to the extent that I hid the 8 track soundtrack...
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stcyr:
Although Ive seen a few musicals that Id begrudgingly admit to enjoying - - if hard pressed, and/or tortured - - (Ive got to attempt to maintain whatever man credibility I may have left), I could go on for hours about The Greatest American Hero.
Oh, wait!
Man credibility . . .
damn.
Oh, wait!
Man credibility . . .
damn.
I do all of my best thinking in the shower. Sort of like how I do all of my reading in...oh never mind. Anyway, I do my best devising of entire game plans, weighing out of corporate facts, daydreaming, fantasizing and compromising all within the 20 minutes it takes me to wash rinse and repeat. This morning, I wrote a song, entirely in my head,...
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stcyr:
It's odd, I can't remember a single thought from the shower & I LOVE to shower. It is necessary in the a.m. to wake up, and often, in the evening to relax. I don't know if I even do think in there.
I do my "best" thinking while running - - because I hate it and have nothing else to do - - but I rarely remember those thoughts either. (Maybe because I take a shower soon after . . . ?)
I do my "best" thinking while running - - because I hate it and have nothing else to do - - but I rarely remember those thoughts either. (Maybe because I take a shower soon after . . . ?)
So...my daughter (yes, I know, I talk an exorbitant amount about her but it seems, these days, this is my plight) and I have this thing we do. We trade off videos in an effort to meld "old" with "new." We'll choose a theme - it can be great dance videos, mind blowing hip hop, sappy singer songwriter sagas or super duper emo sad kid...
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stcyr:
common ground - - wherever you may find - - is something to be treasured.
I'm still holding on to Repo Man & Suburbia in the vain (and perhaps futile) hope that some day she'll consent to sit down & watch them with me . . .
I'm still holding on to Repo Man & Suburbia in the vain (and perhaps futile) hope that some day she'll consent to sit down & watch them with me . . .
So, my daughter just chooses to put on "Something I Can Never Have" by good old Trenty. (He is sort of "y-ish" these days isn't he-kinda like Snoop Dogg)? You know what I mean. Supposedly dark and dangerous but now clearly changed by money and power to commercial and airy and "feel good?" But, that is not the point of this post. The point of...
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stcyr:
Im so envious that yours is following through on her childhood lessons. Though I raised mine on a steady diet of the good, well . . . again, Im hoping that what shes listening to now [Gaga, etc.] is only a phase.
As to your comment, a lot of that is banter back and forth & multiple comments from the same folks. Its been up since Wednesday. But, and uhm . . .
my lot? My fold?
As to your comment, a lot of that is banter back and forth & multiple comments from the same folks. Its been up since Wednesday. But, and uhm . . .
my lot? My fold?
mattacme:
What a great post, so awesome. I share music with my son at times but constantly back and forth with his 18 year old 1/2 sister and we both are better for it.
I so remember when the Phair one was cool. She always will be in my book.
I so remember when the Phair one was cool. She always will be in my book.
I was ready to launch into this tirade about my ungrateful mentally impaired 14-year-old daughter who got one of her ridiculous 16-year-old high school drop out trouble loving girlfriends to call me on Friday night (on my anniversary too god dammit)and pretend to be another girl's mom so my daughter could spend the night with like 5 guys at her buddy Schaffer's house. Fortunately I...
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stcyr:
and said she understands and that she actually feels light and free and happy because this MONTH that she is grounded will give her the time and space she needs to make better choices and better friends. Not toxic ones...
Were I a cynical man, I'd focus on the word "said," - - but that would be too big a suck on what would otherwise be the best thing I've read today, if not this month - - and so . . . fuck said. Let's say she means it & hope this epiphany is just that.
stcyr:
I think you have much to be proud of, and thankful for as well. I'm really happy to hear this.
I keep trying to remember/remind myself how difficult adolescence can be & to try to look at the kids' issues with the understanding that they - - not only don't have a full toolbox - - they rarely understand how to use the tools that the do have.
I've been thinking of having A.E. Housman's poem printed, framed and mounted on both sides of Spawn's door, and each of her bedroom walls:
When I was one-and-twenty
I heard a wise man say,
'Give crowns and pounds and guineas
But not your heart away;
Give pearls away and rubies
But keep your fancy free.'
But I was one-and-twenty,
No use to talk to me.
When I was one-and-twenty
I heard him say again,
'The heart out of the bosom
Was never given in vain;
'Tis paid with sighs a plenty
And sold for endless rue.'
And I am two-and-twenty,
And oh, 'tis true, 'tis true.
as always, best of luck!
he puts up with their shit for a while and then just gets pissed and rattles their cage a bit