Ugh. Enter the ex-girlfriend. She's been in Japan, coming home for X-Mas with the fam. We're going to meet up. What the fuck am I getting myself into?
We're on good terms, and have been talking quite a lot recently. I think she's been a bit lonely. We've flirted rather a lot, and a hookup seems pretty likely when she comes home.
Worries: I still have feelings for her. Won't know how strong until I see her again (sexually), but I have rarely talked so easily with a woman; she is entertaining, brilliant, and she challenges me. She's recently out of a recent LTR, and in the "Freedom Phase". She's on the pull in Japan, and has a regular bedfriend, though she's been depressed lately that there isn't more intimacy, or closeness. So she wants freedom while wanting a relationship, and even though she's the one who ended her relationship, it seems like she's on the rebound.
I'm left wondering what to do, for my own sake. My feelings are that if she would say yes, I'd probably try to put a ring on this woman. Neither of us are particularly finding great warmth in sex without feelings for our partner, and I'm worried that if we have sex, I'll be the one left caring for her while she emotionally rebounds, not caring for me. Yet, to live without regrets...to reject intimacy with one I so care for?
Unrequited feeling is the worst vulnerability. So...sex? A snog and a cuddle? Settle for a handshake? I'm at a loss.
We're on good terms, and have been talking quite a lot recently. I think she's been a bit lonely. We've flirted rather a lot, and a hookup seems pretty likely when she comes home.
Worries: I still have feelings for her. Won't know how strong until I see her again (sexually), but I have rarely talked so easily with a woman; she is entertaining, brilliant, and she challenges me. She's recently out of a recent LTR, and in the "Freedom Phase". She's on the pull in Japan, and has a regular bedfriend, though she's been depressed lately that there isn't more intimacy, or closeness. So she wants freedom while wanting a relationship, and even though she's the one who ended her relationship, it seems like she's on the rebound.
I'm left wondering what to do, for my own sake. My feelings are that if she would say yes, I'd probably try to put a ring on this woman. Neither of us are particularly finding great warmth in sex without feelings for our partner, and I'm worried that if we have sex, I'll be the one left caring for her while she emotionally rebounds, not caring for me. Yet, to live without regrets...to reject intimacy with one I so care for?
Unrequited feeling is the worst vulnerability. So...sex? A snog and a cuddle? Settle for a handshake? I'm at a loss.