i am a terrible judge of character.
it's a good thing i already found Doghouse_Reilly. otherwise i'd fill this little box with all kinds of bitterness about love and human emotion. without going into details, i shall just say that i'm disappointed with most of the representatives of masculinity that entered my sphere of existence today.
one of them made me really angry. i will never marry a man who hits on other girls in front of me. i will never marry a man who yearns to be "young and single" again. no, monogamy doesn't really make much sense, but if you're going to make such an intense commitment to someone, why fucking bother unless it is the absolute be-all end-all?
it seems like marriage should be something much more rare than it actually is. like, if you hear about someone getting married, the reaction is generally "wow" or "fuck" or "uh-oh", when it really should be an act that generates more incredulity and reverence. not a "well i'm 30, better get married" approach.
fucking marriage.
SIGNED,
DOOM AND GLOOM.
p.s. i will say this. it's more than nice when you meet someone who makes you forget about all the cynicism, who wipes the foam away from your mouth and helps you down off your soapbox. i'm unspeakably glad that i did.
it's a good thing i already found Doghouse_Reilly. otherwise i'd fill this little box with all kinds of bitterness about love and human emotion. without going into details, i shall just say that i'm disappointed with most of the representatives of masculinity that entered my sphere of existence today.
one of them made me really angry. i will never marry a man who hits on other girls in front of me. i will never marry a man who yearns to be "young and single" again. no, monogamy doesn't really make much sense, but if you're going to make such an intense commitment to someone, why fucking bother unless it is the absolute be-all end-all?
it seems like marriage should be something much more rare than it actually is. like, if you hear about someone getting married, the reaction is generally "wow" or "fuck" or "uh-oh", when it really should be an act that generates more incredulity and reverence. not a "well i'm 30, better get married" approach.
fucking marriage.
SIGNED,
DOOM AND GLOOM.
p.s. i will say this. it's more than nice when you meet someone who makes you forget about all the cynicism, who wipes the foam away from your mouth and helps you down off your soapbox. i'm unspeakably glad that i did.
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i had someone i loved once...he was the "oh im 30 better get married" type.
On the topic of marriage I just wanted to say that I've been married for 10 years, my wife and I have been dating for 14 years, and she is my best friend, my hero, and the sexiest chick on the planet, And I try to always let her know that I feel that way, (somedays I'm better at it then others.)
Was 10 years of marriage easy? Fuck no, not even when it's to your best friend. Is love enough? Not to keep you happy everyday. Nothing can possibly do that. You need to as often as possible just cut through all the bullshit of life and get down to what's truly important and just once in a while LOOK at the person you have committed yourself to spending the rest of your life with, and remember all the things that made you fall in love with them in the first place, and let yourself fall a little bit again.
And for fucks sake don't make them responsible for YOUR happiness. I made that mistake before and there is no bigger drag then feeling like you are responsible for someone else's mood. (The whole "I can't live without you" bullshit.)
I think one of the main problems with marriage is that people jump into it way, way to quickly, A hell of a lot of them haven't even dated long enough for the initial giddiness to wear off so they can even see if they are compatible as more then just "lovers."
Anyway, I feel like I'm just babbling and all the points I wanted to make are slipping away. And besides who the fuck am I? "Answer-man" or something?
Being disappointed in someone you misjudged is a horrible feeling, I'm going through that right now at work with someone who I considered to be a close friend, and she just totally betrayed my trust and stabbed me in the back.
Okay now I am just babbling!
Hang in there!