Discovered that I was pretty much being used by my ex. She called her ex halfway through our relationship, that explains why things went downhill since September, then she dropped me using lame excuses. The two of us began to get back together before my vacationing the first week of December, then sure enough she got distant when I got back. I was being very supportive of her before I left and sacrificed a lot, only to find out her ex came crawling back during my week out of town. I’m pretty damned stupid to think things were gettin better.
when I got back she was distant whenever I initiated conversation, but she was still contacting me for design tips... thought that was weird. Then she told me the truth on Friday, when I decided to talk to her about things. Worst part was she compared me to her ex. Told me that we just aren’t compatible, yet her old relationship has been on and off for years and he was emotionally abusive to her, calling her names and treating her awful. Then yesterday was the last day we talked, I decided we were done, even as friends. She told me I was almost too perfect and that she just isn’t used to a guy like me, she thought that I wasn’t real and that I was faking my support for her. Again... more excuses. She had a guy who was supporting her resolve to fix her life, and she lost him. I was even willing to lift some of the heavy load, when I could.
I’ll miss her, but I’m very relieved that this is all over. I deleted and blocked her number, and removed her off FB. She works at the club I normally go to, so I will most likely be avoiding it for a while. At least I experienced this and now know can see all the red flags that I need to avoid. But she seemed so sweet, interested, and fun. I held onto her as much as I could, and in doing so I made things more uncomfortable for both of us... even when there was a part of me telling myself to let her go, and that she is playin me to reach someone else.
she tried convincing me that she doesn’t want to go back to him, she is just supporting him while he goes through a rough patch... as though he doesn’t have anyone else to lean on other than his ex... but her behavior toward me when he came back said otherwise. she apologized as I left the apartment, but I didn’t say anything. She isn’t worth the effort, anymore. Sucks, because i still care about her, but she lead me on to only drop me down for her ex. Figured I’d take some time to collect myself and be with friends. I’d rather go out and socialize at bars and clubs, but I need a break. Dealing with her wore me out.
