Wednesday Feb 10, 2010

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So I did a pretty bad thing last night.. felt kinda good just not morally good.

I think I 'm breaking up with my boyfriend today. Its the right thing to do for many reasons. Thing is I'm not heartbroken or looking to get back with him so I could probably still hang out with him straight away after and be alright.

Last night I got made to feel awesome. Told I was beautiful, hot, would be treated like gold, and someone really likes me! It was sweet and we talked for hours but I think I got a bit much...the next morning he was quiet and we didnt talk about it the whole time and then we just gave eachother a small hug when we left and i said to him "you know if youre regretting anything you said last night then say" and he said "no im not, im just thinking whats right, and what would be best for you and I dont want to see you homeless or anything and I dont wana be the guy that gets between a couple or anything". I cant believe how decent hes being, there is a part of me that thinks its an act. How awful is that? we meet decent, kind, selfless human beings and we get suspicious of them and think its for a totally selfish reason they do it. Oh society you have screwed up royally,
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paradym:
I'm coming from six months of the single life after being in a four year relationship that included three breakups. Talking about him being quiet just makes me wonder about the other details, what happened between the hours of talking and the next morning. Usually guys are more talkative in the evening settings anyway, and if it was the friend evening that you wrote about in an earlier post that'd explain it.

As to whether he's genuine and good or reconsidering, I'd wait to see if it was just the one night of flowing compliments and conversation or what. Given your situation, I would easily see him wanting to avoid any chaos that anything could bring.

I'd suggest thinking about you and J first and foremost. It doesn't take too much reading for me to feel that you have an up and down going on, and that's usually not good, especially if you can't talk about your spats. The biggest warning I'd give you is that if you put one foot in a new door before the other foot's out the old door, you're likely to get slammed on one or both counts. If you are beautiful and hot (which anyone here will likely tell you) and liked and would be treated like gold last night, then it should still be the case in a day or week or month when you've planted your feet firmly inside or outside the doorway you're currently straddling.
ricardor:
i agree with Paradym. only time will tell. some guys will tell you want you want to hear and promise you the world aand then....disappear and act as if youre a casual person. dont be to quick to judge either way, but do resolve your other relationship first, and not always but isometimes (f you cheat on a guy, the guy you cheat with will probably never take you seriously because he can suffer the same result)

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