Hi peeps
Hope everyone is hanging in there as i am
My snare drum head ripped last night so i taped it up till i can get another in a few days. In other news i'm again sorta in a situation where trying to help out a friend who is wanting to change there life but will not do anything about so i ask you should i leave it be? I'm a grown man and can make up my own mind but like to know my friends opinion on it. I'll try not to drag this out but one of my friends i have known around 3 years is in a bad marriage or is claiming to be, i say claiming cause for alli know this could all be a big game to them and all drama just for reaction. i asked if they were pulling my leg cause as much as i hear about how there is no more magic in the marriage they claim they can not get out of it cause there is no where else to go. that to me seems wrong i mean couldn't they get help to get them back on there feet? Last year i helped out someone who well took advantage of me but there were able to get aid from their county and also help with a few other things(a mental evaluation should have been given too). Anyway all i hear about is how it sucks, there kids do not mind them, you can proably picture it, all i can offer is support but not much else. I explained that they have to make that first step if they want out of it and that it is possible to do and though it would be rough going for a bit that it is possible to have a normal life and thing will look up but they do not seem to think there is a way of it and think more and more negative toward it so i tell them that if your not willing to change anything then it will not happen. their's tons more but lord it make a good book in the end. So sine they seem to not really want to go i think it might also be someone just playing a game and making it seem worse than it might be, i do not know, they swear it is not but these days you never know. My thoughts for now is to just be there friend and let them vent for now and see just how much longer they will keep it up. Hope the rest of y'all have a good week ahead. Take care peeps
Hope everyone is hanging in there as i am
My snare drum head ripped last night so i taped it up till i can get another in a few days. In other news i'm again sorta in a situation where trying to help out a friend who is wanting to change there life but will not do anything about so i ask you should i leave it be? I'm a grown man and can make up my own mind but like to know my friends opinion on it. I'll try not to drag this out but one of my friends i have known around 3 years is in a bad marriage or is claiming to be, i say claiming cause for alli know this could all be a big game to them and all drama just for reaction. i asked if they were pulling my leg cause as much as i hear about how there is no more magic in the marriage they claim they can not get out of it cause there is no where else to go. that to me seems wrong i mean couldn't they get help to get them back on there feet? Last year i helped out someone who well took advantage of me but there were able to get aid from their county and also help with a few other things(a mental evaluation should have been given too). Anyway all i hear about is how it sucks, there kids do not mind them, you can proably picture it, all i can offer is support but not much else. I explained that they have to make that first step if they want out of it and that it is possible to do and though it would be rough going for a bit that it is possible to have a normal life and thing will look up but they do not seem to think there is a way of it and think more and more negative toward it so i tell them that if your not willing to change anything then it will not happen. their's tons more but lord it make a good book in the end. So sine they seem to not really want to go i think it might also be someone just playing a game and making it seem worse than it might be, i do not know, they swear it is not but these days you never know. My thoughts for now is to just be there friend and let them vent for now and see just how much longer they will keep it up. Hope the rest of y'all have a good week ahead. Take care peeps