innocentmind

"A man who is put off by bluntness will simply not be able to deal with an Aspie long-term. A person to whom a specific kind of appearance is vital is not going to be able to cope with a woman whose dress-sense must take into account both sensory issues and an inordinate amount of time spent in hobbies such as, say, feral cat capture-spay/neuter-release programs or anything involving horses."

-Jennifer McIlwee Myers, from the book Asperger's and Girls

I love being blunt, especially with guys. And they might actually like my tendency to wear less clothing at home than outside of it due to sensory issues...I hate having excess fabric against my skin. A short skirt and a t-shirt or tank is perfect for nesting.

Now, the one thing I still worry about is whether I can ever handle cohabiting with someone. I really need my alone time some days to process all the social activity of the day. Just knowing another person is there, even if in a separate room, ruins that process. I like not having to even think about or have awareness of someone else's presence in the same general space as mine. Someone being there means knowing I'll have to get into social mode again at least some of the time, for which my mind automatically rehearses in preparation and which is exactly what I'm trying to rest up on. That doesn't mean I want to be alone most of the time, though. I just worry about finding someone who would want similar patterns or could at least handle mine well. I don't want either one of us to feel overly compromised.

I've had a couple friends offer to be my roommate and even pay me rent since I've lived at this place, but I've turned them down. I just can't do it no matter how much I like them. Ponderings like these make me most grateful for what I have.