imnotferris

For the past 10+ years, I've been taking care of my mother. It's mostly financial support, and taking her to and from doctors appointments. I've taken off countless days of work to do these things, and it's not always easy (my line of work can be very "feast or famine"). I realize there are 𝘵𝘰𝘯𝘴 of people in the same situation, or worse, but I've been getting angrier and angrier at the situation for one simple reason: I have 2 older siblings. I shouldn't 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 to be solely responsible for my mom. My brother and sister only seem to take notice of her when they need something from her (housesitter or free child care). I'm about at my wits end, because now my mom has an eye surgery coming up. It's nothing serious, but it has to be done during the week, and she has to have someone with her. She can't just be dropped off and picked up. I can't stress enough how much I 𝘊𝘈𝘕 𝘕𝘖𝘛 take the time off work. Very few people on this site know how spotty work has been this past year, Olga, Shameless, and Amoxi do, for sure. I just can't do it. Especially since my sister agreed to go with her over 2 months ago, but suddenly decides it will interfere with her part time job... for one day. I dunno. I guess I'm just venting, not looking for advice or anything. It will turn out one of 2 ways: one of my siblings will do the bare-fucking-minimum, and take a single goddamned day off work, or they will leave it and force my hand to have to take her myself. Because they know when push comes to shove, I'm not going to let my mom go without the surgery. I'm about fucking done with both of them.