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need and love.

Do you confuse the two? Like confusing gravity for the effect of gravity? That is, while love may not be understood, we understand it by acts.

"But how else would you weigh it"

So you need to measure love to believe in it? But that's fear and it stands in the way of love. Honestly, trust is never permanent, people grow and change. That trust becomes a shackle resented or the knife which will bring yo tothe ground. In the end, I'm afraid that all we have is Goddess Chance to believe in here.

"That's horrible."

It's the only faith I know. Besides, maybe all of the actss and seeming investments on the part of your lover aren't about a loving desire -- maybe they're just conveinient, sometimes even self-serving. Maybe it's about need and not love.

"How do you know the difference?"

Lonliness and fear create need, not love. Affinities, shared experiences, understanding (verbal and otherwise), and mutuality -- these create love.

"But they exist together."

Do you know the difference?

"I know the one is a sister, a mother, and a friend. I know the other is a friend, an escape, and a rock. She's committed to life to both. I know she needs them more than she love them."

Now, that is horrible.