I don't like liars.
Specifically I don't like people for whom lying is an involuntary action. Someone who consistently misrepresents themselves just because they can...I know the type.
Had a friend once, the type of friend I shared my deepest thoughts with. Little did I know she was sharing them with anyone she talked to. So all those long talks, all those moments of sharing that solidify a friendship? They were just gossip fodder for her. Worse, she constantly lied to me, to the point that I still am not certain what was truth and what were lies. It's disturbing to realize you let someone into your home on several occasions, broke bread with them for years in their own home, met their family and friends, and never knew them at all.
Oh, this girl painted herself as the wronged victim all the time. And to be fair, I was guilty of enabling her. I just ate that shit up. Oh, you poor thing, it's so unfair, here have a hug. She was very good at crying on cue and seeming genuinely upset, but the truth is, she had a mean, manipulative streak a mile wide. I started to pick up on it, and that's probably about when my days were numbered. I actually asked her "if you talk about other people who are supposedly your friends (she actually referred to her best friend since high school as a whore) like this, then how do you talk about me when I'm not around?" She never gave me a direct answer, just a lot of hand waving and buttering me up. Of course she would NEVER treat me like that. I was FAMILY, I was SPECIAL.
Right.
That's the price of ego, I suppose. Thinking you're special, thinking you won't get hurt. But it's also the price of stupidity. She had 2-3 friends before me, and they were all the closest friends she'd ever had in her life, until they weren't. It's a lesson I've kept close to me for the last 2 years. It's also why I play things very close to the vest. I don't completely shut people out, but I don't volunteer information, either.
All this is to say that if you misrepresent yourself, and I know about it, don't be surprised if we're not friends.
It ain't gonna happen.
Specifically I don't like people for whom lying is an involuntary action. Someone who consistently misrepresents themselves just because they can...I know the type.
Had a friend once, the type of friend I shared my deepest thoughts with. Little did I know she was sharing them with anyone she talked to. So all those long talks, all those moments of sharing that solidify a friendship? They were just gossip fodder for her. Worse, she constantly lied to me, to the point that I still am not certain what was truth and what were lies. It's disturbing to realize you let someone into your home on several occasions, broke bread with them for years in their own home, met their family and friends, and never knew them at all.
Oh, this girl painted herself as the wronged victim all the time. And to be fair, I was guilty of enabling her. I just ate that shit up. Oh, you poor thing, it's so unfair, here have a hug. She was very good at crying on cue and seeming genuinely upset, but the truth is, she had a mean, manipulative streak a mile wide. I started to pick up on it, and that's probably about when my days were numbered. I actually asked her "if you talk about other people who are supposedly your friends (she actually referred to her best friend since high school as a whore) like this, then how do you talk about me when I'm not around?" She never gave me a direct answer, just a lot of hand waving and buttering me up. Of course she would NEVER treat me like that. I was FAMILY, I was SPECIAL.
Right.
That's the price of ego, I suppose. Thinking you're special, thinking you won't get hurt. But it's also the price of stupidity. She had 2-3 friends before me, and they were all the closest friends she'd ever had in her life, until they weren't. It's a lesson I've kept close to me for the last 2 years. It's also why I play things very close to the vest. I don't completely shut people out, but I don't volunteer information, either.
All this is to say that if you misrepresent yourself, and I know about it, don't be surprised if we're not friends.
It ain't gonna happen.
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notoriousdug:
Been there and it sucks.
signalnoise:
Good point - bluntness should be moderated based on how much of an ass the person is. 