What is “vanilla sex”?
According to Urban Dictionary, vanilla sex is “a type of sex that does not include elements of BDSM, kink, or fetish”. Otherwise known as “normal sex” or viewed as just doing it missionary style.
Now, I’ve got a whole fucking long list of issues with the term and use of “vanilla sex” - first one being, who gives a fuck how and where and which way you get fucked? If you’re enjoying it, who literally gives a fuck?!
Not everyone is into being bum fucked by a massive strap-on whilst a bunch of naked men in pig masks stand around wanking (cough) AND THAT’S OKAY!
If you enjoy sex, in whatever form, and it gets you off… that’s fucking awesome.
If you want to dip your toe into the kink world and attend a munch, or a play party just to see FUCKING GO YOU. We all had to start somewhere, and you can only learn through experience.
If you decide it’s not for you, or you just like a bit of slap and tickle in the bedroom, FUCKING AMAZING.
If you do decide that CNC and being spat on is absolutely your bag FUCKING FANTASTIC.
SO LONG AS WE ARE HAVING SAFE SANE AND CONSENSUAL SEX ANYTHING FUCKING GOES.
Let’s not gate-keep kink! Now where did I put my strap-on…
Stay tuned for my next piece on attending your first BDSM play party…cumming soon…
Xoxo Serena Red
