Hmm...
I just got a call from Jack, my... my stepfather? My soon-to-be-ex-stepfather? The guy that my mother married and is now in the process of divorcing.
He tells me that my mother tried to kill herself last night.
She was sitting in her house with Simao & Nocia, the two kids that she adopted when she was a missionary in Mozambique. She was apparently upset, as she said something like "well, I'll just kill myself then" and grabbed a butcher knife. Simao wrestled the knife away from her and called Jack, who told him to call the cops. The cops showed up and took her to the loony bin for observation and evaluation (haven't we all been there?)
I don't think she would have really killed herself, especially not in front of the kids (I say "kids", but Nocia is around 18 and Simao is like 22). I think she was just playing for attention.
I thanked Jack for taking the time to call me, but that I didn't see what I could do. I haven't really spoken to my mother in the last six months or so, since she revealed to me some of the underhanded shit she's pulled behind my back. As much as it pains me, I just can't afford to get involved with her again.
This news comes hot on the heels of a similar piece of unpleasantry. Action Man called me the other day and told me about a buddy of ours whose father had offed himself a few days ago. He was in his pickup truck, pulled up to a gas station and shot himself in the head. I've been trying to call my buddy to offer my condolences, but can't reach him.
What the fuck, must be the holidays...
I just got a call from Jack, my... my stepfather? My soon-to-be-ex-stepfather? The guy that my mother married and is now in the process of divorcing.
He tells me that my mother tried to kill herself last night.
She was sitting in her house with Simao & Nocia, the two kids that she adopted when she was a missionary in Mozambique. She was apparently upset, as she said something like "well, I'll just kill myself then" and grabbed a butcher knife. Simao wrestled the knife away from her and called Jack, who told him to call the cops. The cops showed up and took her to the loony bin for observation and evaluation (haven't we all been there?)
I don't think she would have really killed herself, especially not in front of the kids (I say "kids", but Nocia is around 18 and Simao is like 22). I think she was just playing for attention.
I thanked Jack for taking the time to call me, but that I didn't see what I could do. I haven't really spoken to my mother in the last six months or so, since she revealed to me some of the underhanded shit she's pulled behind my back. As much as it pains me, I just can't afford to get involved with her again.
This news comes hot on the heels of a similar piece of unpleasantry. Action Man called me the other day and told me about a buddy of ours whose father had offed himself a few days ago. He was in his pickup truck, pulled up to a gas station and shot himself in the head. I've been trying to call my buddy to offer my condolences, but can't reach him.
What the fuck, must be the holidays...
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The holidays concentrate life down on people. If things are good then the holidays are extra nice. if things are shitty, then the holidays are extra shitty plus you gotta see all the extra happy people on top of it. Tomorrow I put up my new shotgun shell Christmas lights! (duh, I could have waited until next journal entry to mention mixing holidays and firearms. my social skill are lacking sometimes.- hope your friend is dealing alright.)
A tough call. Sometimes though you really do have to make a decision to not get involved, and i think on this occaision, maintaining some distance is the thing to do. As you mentioned, it was right, indeed commendable for your father-in-law to get in touch, but given the history, i do think exercising some discretion and maintaining some distance is the right thing for you to do right now.
It's a tough situation they've put you in. We all want to do the right thing. But when a family routinely fails to make good on any sort of committment to you, but conversly expects you to step in as the sober, balanced, and rational person to manage and resolve crisis like the one you describe, eventually.. you have to say 'no more'. I think you can tell that i'm speaking from bitter experience.
Right now you have to focus on looking after number one, buddy. For serious.
As always, if you need / want to talk, just mail me at work or on MySpazz and i'll get in touch asafp.
Shiny side dude, shiny side up....