I rocked the real analysis exam. 100%. Yeah! Things are getting back to normal. If I can make it to the end of this quarter, I get a little time off to regroup.
A few thoughts:
My life is pretty settled, relationship-wise. Hanging out here sometimes make me want a second wife, but the first (and current) wife reminds me that I can barely handle the one I have. Oh well.
I bring it up because a lot of folks here are dealing with the normal relationship issues that come from dating. It makes me want to help. It's probably hubris on my part but sometimes, I really do think I could help.
The problem is that, to most of these folks, I'm just some random internet guy. There's no reason for them to even read what I write let alone take it to heart.
But that doesn't mean I don't want to sit a few of them down for a long talk, get to know the whole story, and see if I can help.
I mean, some of these folks don't hold (potential) mates to the same standard they would a fuck buddy. You don't put up with a fuck buddy that lies or is inconsiderate. You don't fuck them any more. Why would you put up with someone in a serious relationship that does the same? There's much more at stake in a serious relationship so why not hold them to a higher standard instead?
If I could just get one message through it would be that some people aren't going to be a good fit for you. When you find youself in a relationship with one of these people it's your moral obligation to get out quickly and with a minimum of fuss. Otherwise, you are wasting your and the other person's time and causing more damage than needed.
A few thoughts:
My life is pretty settled, relationship-wise. Hanging out here sometimes make me want a second wife, but the first (and current) wife reminds me that I can barely handle the one I have. Oh well.
I bring it up because a lot of folks here are dealing with the normal relationship issues that come from dating. It makes me want to help. It's probably hubris on my part but sometimes, I really do think I could help.
The problem is that, to most of these folks, I'm just some random internet guy. There's no reason for them to even read what I write let alone take it to heart.
But that doesn't mean I don't want to sit a few of them down for a long talk, get to know the whole story, and see if I can help.
I mean, some of these folks don't hold (potential) mates to the same standard they would a fuck buddy. You don't put up with a fuck buddy that lies or is inconsiderate. You don't fuck them any more. Why would you put up with someone in a serious relationship that does the same? There's much more at stake in a serious relationship so why not hold them to a higher standard instead?
If I could just get one message through it would be that some people aren't going to be a good fit for you. When you find youself in a relationship with one of these people it's your moral obligation to get out quickly and with a minimum of fuss. Otherwise, you are wasting your and the other person's time and causing more damage than needed.
datsun:
your grandad was right about that.