the end.
ending something with someone is hard.
whether it be a friendship, a relationship, a working relationship, or a contract - making it 'end' nicely is something people inherently have problems with.
not so for the beginning.
why is that? why does it always seem easier in the beginning? perhaps easier isnt the right word. there are plenty of socially inept people who want relationships with people but do not know how to start them, or just aren't very successful.
perhaps it comes down to want.
everyone wants to begin 'things'.
a new job. a new boyfriend/girfriend/friend/fuck, a new client, a new baby.. it seems to drive us.
rarely so for endings.
the difficulty in ending something doesnt seem to be proportional to the length of the thing you did. in fact, it seems to rely more on the other person and how they react to the eventual news - or how well they read the situation.
well, in some cases.
in others - it has been my experience that how well 'the end' is handled is almost inversely proportional to the length of time you spend in that 'thing'
for example:
the outrage of a client if you get out of the project immediately vs having years of successful projects and then moving on.
the uncomfortable feeling for an employee who works for 4.5 weeks and then quits vs the individual who works for 4.5 years and moves on. see it right there in my wording? quits vs moves on.
the relationship for 3 weeks that seems more aggravating to end vs the 4+ year one.
the child that dies vs the elderly friend who had a fantastic life - and our outrage as a society at that wrongdoing.
so perhaps length of time in something is what people need to feel satisfied.
although it would seem to me that in a reationship with a member of your attracted sex - it would be harder to create 'the end' the longer you have been in that relationship. this seems to be the case with some friends, but not so for me.
i apparently have encountered the anomoly.
the worst part about ending something is the other person's denial that it is 'the end' - especially after something so short.
why is that? why the denial?
sometimes it is just 'the end' for so many reasons that it really doesnt matter. things were so short - why do you have to a reason? i mean- how well do you know somebody in 3 weeks to really care so much what they think? how much justification do i have to give?
sometimes, it is just over.
you have to stop pushing.
you have to let go.
walk away.
clean up.
forget.
end.
--
update.
i think its funny that after i say 'end' that i add something else. perhaps i have problems with ending things as well.
that is all.
xo
ending something with someone is hard.
whether it be a friendship, a relationship, a working relationship, or a contract - making it 'end' nicely is something people inherently have problems with.
not so for the beginning.
why is that? why does it always seem easier in the beginning? perhaps easier isnt the right word. there are plenty of socially inept people who want relationships with people but do not know how to start them, or just aren't very successful.
perhaps it comes down to want.
everyone wants to begin 'things'.
a new job. a new boyfriend/girfriend/friend/fuck, a new client, a new baby.. it seems to drive us.
rarely so for endings.
the difficulty in ending something doesnt seem to be proportional to the length of the thing you did. in fact, it seems to rely more on the other person and how they react to the eventual news - or how well they read the situation.
well, in some cases.
in others - it has been my experience that how well 'the end' is handled is almost inversely proportional to the length of time you spend in that 'thing'
for example:
the outrage of a client if you get out of the project immediately vs having years of successful projects and then moving on.
the uncomfortable feeling for an employee who works for 4.5 weeks and then quits vs the individual who works for 4.5 years and moves on. see it right there in my wording? quits vs moves on.
the relationship for 3 weeks that seems more aggravating to end vs the 4+ year one.
the child that dies vs the elderly friend who had a fantastic life - and our outrage as a society at that wrongdoing.
so perhaps length of time in something is what people need to feel satisfied.
although it would seem to me that in a reationship with a member of your attracted sex - it would be harder to create 'the end' the longer you have been in that relationship. this seems to be the case with some friends, but not so for me.
i apparently have encountered the anomoly.
the worst part about ending something is the other person's denial that it is 'the end' - especially after something so short.
why is that? why the denial?
sometimes it is just 'the end' for so many reasons that it really doesnt matter. things were so short - why do you have to a reason? i mean- how well do you know somebody in 3 weeks to really care so much what they think? how much justification do i have to give?
sometimes, it is just over.
you have to stop pushing.
you have to let go.
walk away.
clean up.
forget.
end.
--
update.
i think its funny that after i say 'end' that i add something else. perhaps i have problems with ending things as well.
that is all.
xo
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As in, "SURELY you must love me, 'cause we've know each other for, like, WEEKS and stuff"?
Sounds like you dodged a bullet, my friend...congrats!
Check your email, too. Later! -- Cine
So, did you see any of "DB" when bidding the job? Or was the guy in question working at another house at the time? I am sorta drunk and confused. Cheers! -- Cine