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Friday Jan 20, 2006

Jan 20, 2006
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So I feel like I should share a little history about what is going on with my leaving...

I have been questioning my relationship with my lady for a while. I was writing a good friend in Pittsburgh about it very candidly and I said some pretty hurtful things. Well, turns out she some how saw this email to my buddy...the things I said should not be heard by most peoples ears especially if they represent some of your greatest insecurities. This really hurt her. Of course it wasn't meant for her to read but I still said them. It doesn't sum up how I feel about her at all adn I'm trying to explain to her my frustrations with work and life in general at the moment and how it was cowardly to think that those things were related to her. Now I'm really scared that I fucked up something inadvertantly. She's hurt and I'm hurt. I really don't want to lose her. It's so hard for me to get to know somebody because of my nuances and my family situation. I don't need another x-girlfriend that turns into a close friend. I want her as my partner.

Since all of this she remains sad and is having a difficult time distancing the pain from her feelings for me...this is really hard to do. I'm up against a lot.

I'm fully exposed now and so is she. I think we can start sharing our lives now. There are no secrets. I know her needs and she knows mine. We can make this work, goddamn I hope so.
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severus:
I'm sorry but how the HELL did she get that email? Fucking annoying. Some things are not for the one you talk about to hear becase they will not understand it, and just feel really bad. I'm sorry. I hope things will work out for you.

Also, thanks for the very kind things you posted about the crazyness that went on recently. Today's been a much calmer day, even if things are still hard as they are, with my brother who can't almost walk, I have to help him all the time, and my mom also being in pain right now, problems with a knee, and I'm exhausted because I still can't sleep very well. Da da damn. But I'm OK. Tomorrow I'll try to go on a long walk finally... it's been crazy weather the last two days.
Jan 21, 2006
thelonestargirl:
I'm sorry that your girl is in pain. To be honest though, men say things that they don't mean all the time. Sometimes right to your face. A mature girl needs to not take an email, that you sent in privacy, to heart. I'm sure that it was painful for her, and I would understand her pain if I were in her shoes. But she doesn't need to turn it into something so completely intense. You were venting and trying to work things out in your head and sometimes when we write things that make us upset and mad, we realize that those things aren't always true. An example I can make for this is, the guy I dated for 2 years, you've read about him in the journal. I was, for the first time in two years, giving him shit about not hanging out with me on the last night we'd be able to see each other for an entire month. Keep in mind, I waited for a few weeks for him to finish finals and start up a new job and I was patient. But instead, he wants to go to a birthday party for a friend (who is female I might add, but I didn't point that out). I was upset and I told him that it wasn't fair. His reply to me was, 'see, this is why I'm not datiing you..because I can't make certain commitments" Now, I was livid by hearing this because he very well knew that we had something together that was very close and intimate and it was driving me crazy that he wasn't taking things to the next level (not that I was pressuring him to do so). But in reality, he said that to push me away because he felt guilty that he wasn't doing right by me. In the end, I didn't let myself get hurt by this, because if you get mad about every little thing a guy says, you're dumb. I have certainly wrote enough "unsent" angry emails to ex's and if they ever saw those, I dont think that the friendship I now share with them all would exsist. But once I said it, it was out of me and I realize I don't really feel that way about the PERSON, just the particular experience that I hadn't really dealt with. Also, to be honest, you seem generally remourseful about the things you wrote, and it seems you've conveyed that to her as well. Guys NEVER applogize to me for the things they say. Maybe that's just me but I would let it go, it's not fair to hold things over people's heads, it's just as bad as the pain you caused her. Hopefully, your relationship isn't always like this because it's going to be a long and bumpy road.
Jan 22, 2006

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