flakaseagulls

Having been married (*gasp* - actual personal history details exposed! I feel kinda dirty) I in retrospect think quite a lotof things about it were conceptually great, but it had nothing to do with the formality or even teh standard conceptual trappings. Deeply sharing someone's company in profound and connected ways can be fucking awesome - and it can be damn frustrating and challenging... but to me, exploring that balance and seeing the world through those shared eyes is what relationships are all about. The actual details and structure is in the end joust another facet of it to explore.

Congrats are in order then. I know I am ready to expore intimacy with someone that can head into serious/scary directions, but I am def. not ready to really be considering places that have Looong term in them.

I def. can appreciate that feeling of accomplishment when you can even start to consider an idea abstractly as something that someday could be a good thing. For me its the kidlet issue. I used to be overwhelmingly adamadntly no-kid... now I can actually think about the concept fondly and think 'yah I could see that someday' ...