Relationships make me ill.
I hate the fact I have to trust someone.
You see all these other relationships where they trusted the other person. And the other person did horrible things.
So what reason do I have to just trust the person I'm with. I have no reason not to, I know.
But neither did any of these countless other people.
It's nothing personal, I'm just realistic. I don't think you can fully trust anyone else. Because you can't see what other people are doing all day everyday.
I hate that I'm expected to trust someone after knowing them for a year. I trust my mother. I have known her for 19 years and she's never given me ANY reason not to trust her. Not one lie (other than silly Santa Claus-esque ones) has come out of her mouth. I should trust you in the same way in a year? How does that even work?
Trust is silly. I don't see you 20 hours of most days. Do I assume I know what you're doing? Yes. Would I bet my life I know what you're doing? No. Why? Because in reality I don't know. Trust like the kind you want me to have doesn't have a place in my reality. Until I become omnipotent, it probably won't have a place in my reality.
Guh.
I've seen too many stories about guys who have a bowling team and go to strip clubs instead.
And too many guys who's business trips are fronts for sex tourism.
And heard too many sob stories of being cheated on.
And I've been cheated on. Trust doesn't work for me.
Sorry.
I hate the fact I have to trust someone.
You see all these other relationships where they trusted the other person. And the other person did horrible things.
So what reason do I have to just trust the person I'm with. I have no reason not to, I know.
But neither did any of these countless other people.
It's nothing personal, I'm just realistic. I don't think you can fully trust anyone else. Because you can't see what other people are doing all day everyday.
I hate that I'm expected to trust someone after knowing them for a year. I trust my mother. I have known her for 19 years and she's never given me ANY reason not to trust her. Not one lie (other than silly Santa Claus-esque ones) has come out of her mouth. I should trust you in the same way in a year? How does that even work?
Trust is silly. I don't see you 20 hours of most days. Do I assume I know what you're doing? Yes. Would I bet my life I know what you're doing? No. Why? Because in reality I don't know. Trust like the kind you want me to have doesn't have a place in my reality. Until I become omnipotent, it probably won't have a place in my reality.
Guh.
I've seen too many stories about guys who have a bowling team and go to strip clubs instead.
And too many guys who's business trips are fronts for sex tourism.
And heard too many sob stories of being cheated on.
And I've been cheated on. Trust doesn't work for me.
Sorry.
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Trust is more like having faith. If you believe then you will trust, but there is no way to prove what you believe in. When you lose trust, you have enough evidence.
Trust is as real as you want it to be.
For me, you have my trust on day one. If at anytime you break my trust and you want to be trusted again, you have to prove to me that you deserve it. You have to earn my trust so to say.
Trust is totally needed thing in life. If you don't have trust you can never have any great relationships. This includes friendships, working relationships, student/teacher relationships. All of the them. If you don't have trust you don't have foundation for a relationship and the relationship with fail.
Why is this sounding like the begining of a psychology essay?
I think you should trust the untrustworthy one, he deserves it until he does something to break it. Just my thoughts.
I hope you have a great day!
My advice, because I know you want it, otherwise you wouldn't have posted this entry: trust the person. If you don't and you stay together then all your doubts, fears and insecurities will consume you.
You will never know if the person is honest or lying, if they are out bowling or at the strip club. You have to accept that what they say is the truth, and not let it eat away at your heart. If you can't accept this fact then you should walk away now and save your sanity.
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[Edited on Mar 12, 2006 1:54PM]