Ok. I have a question for you guys.. most of you know that Finn's father has still not even made the attempt to meet him. From what I understand, a lot of it has to do with his now girlfriend. Yes, she should have noo bearing on his choices, but she does. I considered sending her an e-mail about it, because she's being a bit childish on fucking myspace with her little digs (you know the day status digs people use on there). So that is below.. I'd like some feedback as to whether or not this should be what I say. I really don't want to come across as a total bitch because that's not going to get me anywhere, but I also don't want to be a push-over. HELP.




"I'm sure that you have read any texts that Jeff has gotten from me. I'm also sure that you are not a stupid girl and could possibly see the reasoning behind me not wanting to have other people involved in his meeting Finneas for the first few times. I'm happy for the two of you and the life that you want together, but at the same time, you have no bearing in the life of my son yet. All that I want is for him to develop a relationship with his son before introducing others into the scenerio. If he's going to be any kind of father like he's been so far, then it's a waste of time and emotion.

You post your blogs about caring for your children and spending time with them, not dropping them off with others... and I'm sorry, but on more than one occasion you've dropped yours off to go have a few drinks.. and cheat on your husband.. so please spare me the holier than though speech about me being unreasonable in my request.

Jeff claims to want to be a part of his son's life and I am giving him every opportunity to. All that I ask is for it to be gradual."

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I'm sure that you have read any texts that Jeff has gotten from me. I'm also sure that you will see the reasoning behind me not wanting to have other people involved in his meeting Finneas for the first few times. I'm happy for the two of you and the life that you want together, but at the same time, that should not be the most important factor in Finn's life with Jeff. All that I want is for them to develop a relationship before introducing others into the scenario. As a mother, you want the best for your children and I want the same for mine.

I have no problem with you and the kids eventually meeting him and being a part of his life, but I want him to establish that with Jeff first. Jeff claims to want to be a part of his son's life and I am giving him every opportunity to. All that I ask is for it to be gradual.