It's not a nice feeling to have one of your parents actively doing everything they can to destroy your future plans.
My father has been attempting through court to bleed my mother dry post-divorce... essentially to take her family's land from her, that she inherited herself. That same land is the land I grew up on, and is land that has been in my family for 150 years. It's also the land that Countessa and I plan to build our house on.
The judge has just awarded $230,000 to him, which my mother has to pay within sixty days or he will be awarded land. Essentially what this means is that the land will have to be mortgaged and the main weight of paying off that mortgage will fall on me and my sister. Now I'm aware that most people who build a house will pay more than that for their block. But it's a real kick in the teeth to suddenly be, most likely, paying for land that I thought I already essentially owned. And all that to go to a man who has never done a useful thing in his life, but has only fed like a parasite on those stupid enough to have loved him. And then there is the sheer emotional trauma that this puts on my mother, who has already had to put up with him through 20+ years of marriage. To have the home which you have lived in for 50 years threatened to be given to someone who you were good enough to allow into your home and live there for free.....that's gotta be a heavy burden to bear.
My old man hasn't spoken to me in 3+ years now. Now that the divorce is completely over, I'm going to be looking forward to changing my name... I feel dirty for having his name and the name of his family associated with me. And I'm looking forward to sending him a copy of the name-change certificate.
I keep struggling to believe I'm descended from such a miserable example of a human being. He has been an incredibly good anti-role model. Everything he did as I grew up, I did the opposite. And as a result I have friends and people who love me. He's living alone with his mother, and they hate each other. His entire life seems to be devoted to spite. And I guess he continues to be the perfect anti-role model.
Slipknot's first album is a good thing to be listening to at the moment.
My father has been attempting through court to bleed my mother dry post-divorce... essentially to take her family's land from her, that she inherited herself. That same land is the land I grew up on, and is land that has been in my family for 150 years. It's also the land that Countessa and I plan to build our house on.
The judge has just awarded $230,000 to him, which my mother has to pay within sixty days or he will be awarded land. Essentially what this means is that the land will have to be mortgaged and the main weight of paying off that mortgage will fall on me and my sister. Now I'm aware that most people who build a house will pay more than that for their block. But it's a real kick in the teeth to suddenly be, most likely, paying for land that I thought I already essentially owned. And all that to go to a man who has never done a useful thing in his life, but has only fed like a parasite on those stupid enough to have loved him. And then there is the sheer emotional trauma that this puts on my mother, who has already had to put up with him through 20+ years of marriage. To have the home which you have lived in for 50 years threatened to be given to someone who you were good enough to allow into your home and live there for free.....that's gotta be a heavy burden to bear.
My old man hasn't spoken to me in 3+ years now. Now that the divorce is completely over, I'm going to be looking forward to changing my name... I feel dirty for having his name and the name of his family associated with me. And I'm looking forward to sending him a copy of the name-change certificate.
I keep struggling to believe I'm descended from such a miserable example of a human being. He has been an incredibly good anti-role model. Everything he did as I grew up, I did the opposite. And as a result I have friends and people who love me. He's living alone with his mother, and they hate each other. His entire life seems to be devoted to spite. And I guess he continues to be the perfect anti-role model.
Slipknot's first album is a good thing to be listening to at the moment.
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riese:
Man, sounds like you are going through a lot! Sorry your dad is messing so much up for you guys...
otoki:
I like reading things I disagree with so long as they're well-thought out and backed up with facts