existentialsex4

It is interesting to me how something that we describe as a type or what we prefer sexually can be an unquestionable or uncriticized vehicle for discrimination. For example we often describe our types, or turn ons in a particular way, if we dont vocalize these things we all seem to have particular cognitive ways of sorting out good potential mates or sexual partners based primarily on looks. We think its entirely legitimate to think that particular type of sex is something a relationship necessarily needs, in addition often we think that looks are important. We are often unapologetic about these sorts of things and dont think it needs any sort of defence. In addition scrutinization of looks and body types has become a major part of our culture. We remind ourselves that such cognitive scrutiny is natural and acceptable without thinking and seriously considering those we necessarily weed out as part of this process. It seems to me that this sort of discrimination is not only illegitimate but can also lead to a unjustified exclusion of many people, more specifically those who are medically ill and people that are disabled. This is unfortunate, people need to think about what exactly we are doing when we acknowledge a particular person as sexy or beautiful, in addition we need to think about why we are somewhat ambivalent about some people, and why we exclude others from our lives. Above all, I think we need to question this cognitive sorting of individuals and question where it receives its legitimacy from. Does the legitimacy come from society? And if so is that morally legitimate: should we really be jumping on the band wagon about these sorts of things?