envie

My truce with my ex may be coming to an end. He was quite nice about helping me pick up some furniture yesterday and he deserves credit for that, but I don't think he's quite ready to deal with a me who doesn't feel obligated to cave in to keep the peace.

I went to pick up stuff for my kitties today, the basics: litter, litter box, food, etc. Since I don't have a car I eventually found myself putting all this stuff on my skateboard and wheeling it home in super ghetto-fabulous fashion. As I wheeled it home I realized that all the kitty stuff I had left with my ex technically belonged to me and it was actually really nice of me to leave it for him. Since we're going to have split custody of the cats for a while he needs that stuff as well. I sent him an IM telling him this. I hoped it would open his eyes to the fact that I'm giving up a lot of things here. He's been complaining that I want some pictures that were mine, in frames I paid for, because he cut the matte board for them.

For probably one of the first times ever I didn't back down to him. He didn't seem to like it. The last thing he said was "I'm done here," followed by a dramatic exit.

I want to remain on amiable terms with him, but I'm also proud of myself for defending my interests, even when they run counter to his. ESPECIALLY when they run counter to his.