Personal observation of the day: I either have a strong person inside, carefully hidden by a weak exterior, or I have a crazy person inside, carefully hidden by a polite exterior. Who will win? Who do I want to win? Flip a coin?
stumm:
Now, these things don't necessarily cancel each other out, do they?
redheadedleague:
Have them call a truce and start negotiations. You need both. I say this having some experience with strong crazy people who had no weak polite ones covering for them. It's unpleasant.

