* This was started at 5 in the morning so forgive me for grammar, spelling, trailing off, whatever mistakes. Plus it's a note not a dissertation.
It's difficult to put yourself in someone else's position when that position is exclusively unique to that one person. Empathy, compassion, and patience are the weapons we use to help combat this person's battle, but the latter ( patience) and time will ultimately solve this war either putting this person at peace or conflict with his/ her self. As an African American subscribing to Duboisian school of thought. Dubois speaks of a double consciousness amongst African Americans stating, " "this sense of always looking at one's self through the eyes of others, of measuring one's soul by the tape of a world that looks on in amused contempt and pity", and of a two-ness, of being "an American, a Negro; two warring ideals in one dark body, whose dogged strength alone keeps it from being torn asunder." With that quote it is not my dearest intentions discussing black struggle, plight, or rights. This double consciousness applies to any rational people regardless of race, sexual orientation, or political beliefs.
As social creatures we long for the affection of others. When we are born we cry into the high heavens untill the nurse places us gently in the warm bosom of our mothers. Social interaction and being loved is just as vital as food, water and shelter. The only discouraging factor to this necessity is that many of us don't view ourselves through our own eyes ;we constantly view ourselves through the lenses of others. We are constantly at war within ourselves because we may want to commit certain actions, but we are afraid of the social repercussions. Eliminating social repercussions is not the answer and many social repercussions are vital to our survivor ( i.e. rape laws, murder, stealing) however, I am speaking about trivial social repercussions ( i.e. A man loves poetry, but if certain parts of society found out his love;they would scorn him therefore he does not write) To find peace with ones self he will ultimately have to find peace with his/her family. It is not possible to love a tree ( yourself) and hate its roots ( family). This is the first and vital step. Second, one must evaluate his surroundings and ask himself is this a proper environment in which I can live harmoniously without unecessary strife? If not, it is incumbent of that person to seek and find that environment. Third, that person needs to evaluate his/ her priorties about what they want to achieve.
Due to the immaturity of the audience I am adressing ( 17-22 year olds) many of us don't know what we want including myself, but if you can think of one goal that you know for a fact that you want put that aside and implement life style changes in which you can achieve these goals. For pragmatic sake for the persons that have not put much thought to the previous statement. I will address a "universal" love. Most people I know want to find love. My take on love is completely different than others. We are taught that love is selfless, I differ and believe that it is one of the most selfish acts. I believe that you have to be worthy of love one must define their own moral characther and attributes. One must love his/ her self before they can expect someone to love them. You cannot say " I love you" without saying I. Ayn Rand summarizes it best, "When you are in love, it means that the person you love is of great personal, selfish importance to you and to your life. If you were selfless, it would have to mean that you derive no personal pleasure or happiness from the company and the existence of the person you love, and that you are motivated only by self-sacrificial pity for that person's need of you. I don't have to point out to you that no one would be flattered by, nor would accept, a concept of that kind. Love is not self-sacrifice, but the most profound assertion of your own needs and values. It is for your own happiness that you need the person you love, and that is the greatest compliment, the greatest tribute you can pay to that person." It's getting late and my eyes hurt so I will only write a few lines. When it comes to love , never leave the one you love for the one you like, and ask yourself the question? Do i love this person because I need him/her or do I need this person because I love him/her?
It's difficult to put yourself in someone else's position when that position is exclusively unique to that one person. Empathy, compassion, and patience are the weapons we use to help combat this person's battle, but the latter ( patience) and time will ultimately solve this war either putting this person at peace or conflict with his/ her self. As an African American subscribing to Duboisian school of thought. Dubois speaks of a double consciousness amongst African Americans stating, " "this sense of always looking at one's self through the eyes of others, of measuring one's soul by the tape of a world that looks on in amused contempt and pity", and of a two-ness, of being "an American, a Negro; two warring ideals in one dark body, whose dogged strength alone keeps it from being torn asunder." With that quote it is not my dearest intentions discussing black struggle, plight, or rights. This double consciousness applies to any rational people regardless of race, sexual orientation, or political beliefs.
As social creatures we long for the affection of others. When we are born we cry into the high heavens untill the nurse places us gently in the warm bosom of our mothers. Social interaction and being loved is just as vital as food, water and shelter. The only discouraging factor to this necessity is that many of us don't view ourselves through our own eyes ;we constantly view ourselves through the lenses of others. We are constantly at war within ourselves because we may want to commit certain actions, but we are afraid of the social repercussions. Eliminating social repercussions is not the answer and many social repercussions are vital to our survivor ( i.e. rape laws, murder, stealing) however, I am speaking about trivial social repercussions ( i.e. A man loves poetry, but if certain parts of society found out his love;they would scorn him therefore he does not write) To find peace with ones self he will ultimately have to find peace with his/her family. It is not possible to love a tree ( yourself) and hate its roots ( family). This is the first and vital step. Second, one must evaluate his surroundings and ask himself is this a proper environment in which I can live harmoniously without unecessary strife? If not, it is incumbent of that person to seek and find that environment. Third, that person needs to evaluate his/ her priorties about what they want to achieve.
Due to the immaturity of the audience I am adressing ( 17-22 year olds) many of us don't know what we want including myself, but if you can think of one goal that you know for a fact that you want put that aside and implement life style changes in which you can achieve these goals. For pragmatic sake for the persons that have not put much thought to the previous statement. I will address a "universal" love. Most people I know want to find love. My take on love is completely different than others. We are taught that love is selfless, I differ and believe that it is one of the most selfish acts. I believe that you have to be worthy of love one must define their own moral characther and attributes. One must love his/ her self before they can expect someone to love them. You cannot say " I love you" without saying I. Ayn Rand summarizes it best, "When you are in love, it means that the person you love is of great personal, selfish importance to you and to your life. If you were selfless, it would have to mean that you derive no personal pleasure or happiness from the company and the existence of the person you love, and that you are motivated only by self-sacrificial pity for that person's need of you. I don't have to point out to you that no one would be flattered by, nor would accept, a concept of that kind. Love is not self-sacrifice, but the most profound assertion of your own needs and values. It is for your own happiness that you need the person you love, and that is the greatest compliment, the greatest tribute you can pay to that person." It's getting late and my eyes hurt so I will only write a few lines. When it comes to love , never leave the one you love for the one you like, and ask yourself the question? Do i love this person because I need him/her or do I need this person because I love him/her?
Marie!