Yikes!! I am a piece of shit!! I've been gone way way too long. Chalk it up to work, spending too much time w/ Nate, and just plain laziness. Whats up??? I have neglected u all like a guinea pig in a dirty cage!! (I say this cuz I really, REALLY need to clean her cage.)
Where to begin. So my best friend is ending her life as a free woman this Saturday. She's marrying the same asshole, out of "obligation," that she's been w/ for 5 years and has a 2 1/2 year old son with. She's only 21, and she's only been in one serious relationship in her life, in which she has always ALWAYS been a fucking dorrmat, because she doesn't know how to stand up for herself. Now he doesn't hit her or anything, although I wouldn't put it past him, and he has a decent job and is a good-looking guy. He has even bought them a house. But as far as supporting her emotionally and letting her grow and letting her be who she is, he has done nothing. In fact, he puts her down, tells her what to wear and what to do, makes her think that she is nothing without him, and has basically broken her down so much that she has no fight left. She has told me many times that she doesn'y want to marry him. She's not ready, he doesn't make her happy, and he doesn't even help to take care of their kid. On top of it all she's fallen in love w/ another guy, who, if she would let him, would be greatest thing that has ever come into her life. (Besides her little boy.) She is sooooo sheltered and naive and weak, and this guy would be perfect for helping her break out of her shell. Hahaha I just realized this sounds like a script for a soap opera. It really is!!! But anyway, so for the past so many months, me and everyone else who cares about her have been trying sooooo hard to talk her out of marrying this jerk, and despite the fact that she knows she'll be miserable and her family hates him and her son barely knows him and this other guy completely adores her and would make her so fucking happy......(BREATHE)....she's still going to marry him. This Saturday. And I'm supposed to be the maid of honor.
I just might have to object. I don't know if I can forever hold my peace. Or maybe I'll just murder the groom. Yes...that sounds fun.
Really, I'm just sick of the whole thing, and I'm tired of feeling pity for her because she has every justifiable reason and all the opportunities in the world to leave him, but she's a fucking pussy, and has to do what's "right" in the eyes of the Catholic church, and in the eyes of society, and so if she wants to throw away her own damn life, then so be it. I'm gonna miss her though. She's gonna be a prisoner in her own home.
Well, that's all the time we have for today, kiddos. I SWEAR on my left nut I will update more tonight. Cuz I have more to talk about. So byebye!
Where to begin. So my best friend is ending her life as a free woman this Saturday. She's marrying the same asshole, out of "obligation," that she's been w/ for 5 years and has a 2 1/2 year old son with. She's only 21, and she's only been in one serious relationship in her life, in which she has always ALWAYS been a fucking dorrmat, because she doesn't know how to stand up for herself. Now he doesn't hit her or anything, although I wouldn't put it past him, and he has a decent job and is a good-looking guy. He has even bought them a house. But as far as supporting her emotionally and letting her grow and letting her be who she is, he has done nothing. In fact, he puts her down, tells her what to wear and what to do, makes her think that she is nothing without him, and has basically broken her down so much that she has no fight left. She has told me many times that she doesn'y want to marry him. She's not ready, he doesn't make her happy, and he doesn't even help to take care of their kid. On top of it all she's fallen in love w/ another guy, who, if she would let him, would be greatest thing that has ever come into her life. (Besides her little boy.) She is sooooo sheltered and naive and weak, and this guy would be perfect for helping her break out of her shell. Hahaha I just realized this sounds like a script for a soap opera. It really is!!! But anyway, so for the past so many months, me and everyone else who cares about her have been trying sooooo hard to talk her out of marrying this jerk, and despite the fact that she knows she'll be miserable and her family hates him and her son barely knows him and this other guy completely adores her and would make her so fucking happy......(BREATHE)....she's still going to marry him. This Saturday. And I'm supposed to be the maid of honor.
I just might have to object. I don't know if I can forever hold my peace. Or maybe I'll just murder the groom. Yes...that sounds fun.
Really, I'm just sick of the whole thing, and I'm tired of feeling pity for her because she has every justifiable reason and all the opportunities in the world to leave him, but she's a fucking pussy, and has to do what's "right" in the eyes of the Catholic church, and in the eyes of society, and so if she wants to throw away her own damn life, then so be it. I'm gonna miss her though. She's gonna be a prisoner in her own home.
Well, that's all the time we have for today, kiddos. I SWEAR on my left nut I will update more tonight. Cuz I have more to talk about. So byebye!
Man, man, man. That situation is screwed, no. I kinda let myself be run for a while until i realised that it was destroying my soul. I broke out and now i'm happier than ever. But, fuck society and the church! What the shit have they done for us except give us paranoia and self loathing. You life is your own and you MUST take responisbilty for it. I sure hope she figures it out.
Good luck.