So I am writing my first real blog here on SuicideGirls.com, and I hope that everyone that looks at my profile will read it. I really do.
Maybe its just me. Maybe its the lack of sleep that I have gotten over the last two weeks. Maybe I am just paranoid or something. But I have been a member of SuicideGirls.com for about three months now and I only have two friends. One of them doesn't really count since she is a SG herself and, as sweet as she is, we haven't spoken since the day she sent me a friend request. Now... Is there any particular reason I only have two friends here? I have made posts in the groups. I have reached out to those in need and asked for help myself. I have not alienated anyone, nor made anyone feel vulnerable or belittled. I have been as kind as I always am with not a single word of spite given to anyone. And what do I have to show for it?
I have one real friend. In three months.
Now what does that say about the social network that is SuicideGirls.com? Is it that it is generally a more closed society by nature? Or is it that this place where "friends of a similar mindset come to meet" is actually much more exclusive than it leads on to be? My profile picture has me in a pair of blue jeans and a collared shirt. Its not even a particularly NICE shirt, but perhaps many consider me a "prep" for it? I promise you that I am far from being a prep. But first impressions do go a long way I guess. I don't know.
What I am trying to say is this. If you are looking at my profile and reading this blog, odds are that I said something somewhere that got your interest. Perhaps that is an indicator that I am actually an interesting person? I am not out to jump in your pants. I don't want you to email me naked pictures of yourself or your significant other. What I DO want is for you to send me a message or a comment telling me what you thought about the interesting comment I posted somewhere. I will write you back, and we will start one of those things called a "conversation." Please feel free to judge me by the results of that conversation. Don't judge me by any other standards. No, I don't have any tatoos. No, I don't have any piercings. No, my hair is not colored. But yes, I can be a nice guy if you give me a shot at it.
Thank you for reading this.
Maybe its just me. Maybe its the lack of sleep that I have gotten over the last two weeks. Maybe I am just paranoid or something. But I have been a member of SuicideGirls.com for about three months now and I only have two friends. One of them doesn't really count since she is a SG herself and, as sweet as she is, we haven't spoken since the day she sent me a friend request. Now... Is there any particular reason I only have two friends here? I have made posts in the groups. I have reached out to those in need and asked for help myself. I have not alienated anyone, nor made anyone feel vulnerable or belittled. I have been as kind as I always am with not a single word of spite given to anyone. And what do I have to show for it?
I have one real friend. In three months.
Now what does that say about the social network that is SuicideGirls.com? Is it that it is generally a more closed society by nature? Or is it that this place where "friends of a similar mindset come to meet" is actually much more exclusive than it leads on to be? My profile picture has me in a pair of blue jeans and a collared shirt. Its not even a particularly NICE shirt, but perhaps many consider me a "prep" for it? I promise you that I am far from being a prep. But first impressions do go a long way I guess. I don't know.
What I am trying to say is this. If you are looking at my profile and reading this blog, odds are that I said something somewhere that got your interest. Perhaps that is an indicator that I am actually an interesting person? I am not out to jump in your pants. I don't want you to email me naked pictures of yourself or your significant other. What I DO want is for you to send me a message or a comment telling me what you thought about the interesting comment I posted somewhere. I will write you back, and we will start one of those things called a "conversation." Please feel free to judge me by the results of that conversation. Don't judge me by any other standards. No, I don't have any tatoos. No, I don't have any piercings. No, my hair is not colored. But yes, I can be a nice guy if you give me a shot at it.
Thank you for reading this.
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That's the thing, some people aren't going to request, possibly for fear of rejection, or possibly because they don't know how most people feel about them or for the same reasons you stated in your post in "no friends" and I'm generally in agreement with you, I generally won't request friendship, nor will I accept them if I haven't talked to the person, or established some kind of repore.
and three months, pfff, I had to wait longer than that before someone friended me. Just a piece of advice from someone's who's guilty of it, you're coming across negative, paranoid and just a little hostile.
I have no tats, I have no piercings, I wear a Mr.greedy T-shirt often, and the most exotic thing physically about me is probably the fact I have long hair and I'm asian. Lots of people on the site, don't come across that exotic, but its still a social construct, and people are free to interact with whomever they please.
Sorry to be a bit of bitch about it, I do understand how you're feeling about the site, and I'm sorry I can't offer any decent solutions but hey I do get where you're coming from.
Give it time, yak to a couple of people whose blogs interest you, maybe some people take more of an interest in those who comment on their blogs.
Unfortunately taking advice from an insane misanthropic arsehole probably isn't the best thing to do, so feel free to turf out the door, I'm not going to be offended