from my short lived advice column:
DEAR DRU: I am in a long-term relationship with a man I was truly in love with at one time. I was reading his e-mail and found several sexually explicit messages he and a co-worker were exchanging.
They talked about getting together once she got over her "girly problems." I confronted him, and he said there was nothing going on. I called her and confronted her and her husband; then the e-mails stopped.
I asked my boyfriend to see a therapist, which he would not do. I went for a couple of sessions myself, but cannot seem to get over this. Then I found more e-mails to other women where he sent pictures of himself and tried to make plans to meet. I confronted him about this also, and he said he was only kidding and it is just harmless flirting.
Our relationship has been very bad since I found out about this behavior. He tells me he loves me, but I don't think I can ever trust him again. I now sleep on the couch because when he is angry, he locks me out of our bedroom.
I have asked him to put our house up for sale so we can move on with our lives, and he refuses. Why would he not want to do this since I obviously do not fulfill his needs? I desperately need advice about whether I should try again or hire an attorney.
I said:
Hire an attorney because this relationship is over. Despite what other so called experts say you can never really regain trust once it has been broken. Your ex is of the mindframe that he's done nothing wrong because nothing physical happened. Yet that's only because you found out. Since he doesn't want to seek counseling and tossed you out of the bedroom then this relationship is officially done. Judging solely from this behavior I also suggest that you go get tested because I doubt this is a one time occurence.
buy conflict free bling (and no that has nothing to do with TI's beef with Yukmouth)
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DEAR DRU: I am in a long-term relationship with a man I was truly in love with at one time. I was reading his e-mail and found several sexually explicit messages he and a co-worker were exchanging.
They talked about getting together once she got over her "girly problems." I confronted him, and he said there was nothing going on. I called her and confronted her and her husband; then the e-mails stopped.
I asked my boyfriend to see a therapist, which he would not do. I went for a couple of sessions myself, but cannot seem to get over this. Then I found more e-mails to other women where he sent pictures of himself and tried to make plans to meet. I confronted him about this also, and he said he was only kidding and it is just harmless flirting.
Our relationship has been very bad since I found out about this behavior. He tells me he loves me, but I don't think I can ever trust him again. I now sleep on the couch because when he is angry, he locks me out of our bedroom.
I have asked him to put our house up for sale so we can move on with our lives, and he refuses. Why would he not want to do this since I obviously do not fulfill his needs? I desperately need advice about whether I should try again or hire an attorney.
I said:
Hire an attorney because this relationship is over. Despite what other so called experts say you can never really regain trust once it has been broken. Your ex is of the mindframe that he's done nothing wrong because nothing physical happened. Yet that's only because you found out. Since he doesn't want to seek counseling and tossed you out of the bedroom then this relationship is officially done. Judging solely from this behavior I also suggest that you go get tested because I doubt this is a one time occurence.
buy conflict free bling (and no that has nothing to do with TI's beef with Yukmouth)
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