girlfriend trouble......
i dont understand, my gf, she's stressed out, and she alienates me. i feel like she hates me cause she wont discuss with me whats going through her head. she hates living in my house with me, i know that. for the last 2 months she's been hard core looking thru apartment guides. but, realistically, we cant really afford to move, but she wants to. we pay next to nothing to live in my house, she wants to move out and pay 100-200 more a month for rent, plus utilities and have a smaller place. it just doesnt make sense to me. she complanes about not having money. so, moving, seems like a no brainer, not a good idea. she says she's always broke, i dont understand. she gets paid a min of 30k a year, she can make more based on commition. she only pays car, insurance, 200 for rent, dishnetwork, and electric. i pay just the same, and for her cellphone. when she needs money for something, i give her money. i'm there to help her whenever she needs it. but i feel like she never expresses her feelings, or tells me whats goin on. so, instead of talking about it, she just cuts me off, and makes me feel like she doesnt want to be with me, live with me, or put up with me. which in turn makes me feel like shit. not that sex is everything, but when u try to get intimiate with ur gf, and they are not into it at all, after awhile, u feel like u've done something wrong, or they dont want to be with u. the physicalness makes me feel connected, and loved. i feel pushed away, and unwanted. when i bring it up, she gets pissed at me for asking her whats wrong, or if she would rather not be with me. i dont want her to be unhappy. if being somewhere else, or being with out me, would make her happy, i'd rather her go. i'd be sad, and i dont want her to leave me, but whats the point of staying with someone and just being stressed and miserable. i feel like i dont matter. and it hurts me, and my heart. all i want to do is try to make her happy, or make the situation better, and she doesnt want me to bother her. she wants some slack. i just dont know what to do. it sucks.
i dont understand, my gf, she's stressed out, and she alienates me. i feel like she hates me cause she wont discuss with me whats going through her head. she hates living in my house with me, i know that. for the last 2 months she's been hard core looking thru apartment guides. but, realistically, we cant really afford to move, but she wants to. we pay next to nothing to live in my house, she wants to move out and pay 100-200 more a month for rent, plus utilities and have a smaller place. it just doesnt make sense to me. she complanes about not having money. so, moving, seems like a no brainer, not a good idea. she says she's always broke, i dont understand. she gets paid a min of 30k a year, she can make more based on commition. she only pays car, insurance, 200 for rent, dishnetwork, and electric. i pay just the same, and for her cellphone. when she needs money for something, i give her money. i'm there to help her whenever she needs it. but i feel like she never expresses her feelings, or tells me whats goin on. so, instead of talking about it, she just cuts me off, and makes me feel like she doesnt want to be with me, live with me, or put up with me. which in turn makes me feel like shit. not that sex is everything, but when u try to get intimiate with ur gf, and they are not into it at all, after awhile, u feel like u've done something wrong, or they dont want to be with u. the physicalness makes me feel connected, and loved. i feel pushed away, and unwanted. when i bring it up, she gets pissed at me for asking her whats wrong, or if she would rather not be with me. i dont want her to be unhappy. if being somewhere else, or being with out me, would make her happy, i'd rather her go. i'd be sad, and i dont want her to leave me, but whats the point of staying with someone and just being stressed and miserable. i feel like i dont matter. and it hurts me, and my heart. all i want to do is try to make her happy, or make the situation better, and she doesnt want me to bother her. she wants some slack. i just dont know what to do. it sucks.