A few months ago I declared that I'm a greygender. Now the living as a greygender... finding that out as I go. It's one thing to just declare a title that, in essence, jumped off a page at me. Now being greygender, it's like what really makes me "grey" in this? And being in a grey inherently reduces being clear & defined.
A lot of how this has manifested is being present with myself. Do I feel more feminine today? More masculine? Neutral? As a part of this I've hybridized my wardrobe with some women's clothes. Some of this was upfront practical: I've always had big thighs for a male due to my martial arts as a kid. So to get a comfortable thigh fit I had to go with guy pants that didn't have the best hip & crotch height fit. That often irritated me because I hate that kind of look (reminds me of the stereotypical gangster). So I tested a couple women's jeans. Amazing fit for me! Thighs comfortable, belt line where I like it choosing a mid-rise, don't mind the smaller pockets as I already put most things in my day bag. Then I experimented with underwear, starting with thongs. Went well with that test. Unexpected plus from this was the way thongs fit, it's helping my body recover certain control functions that were compromised during my perianal Abscess odyssey. Then also experimented with bras and undershirts for men and women. Previously avoided tight fitting undershirts because of being overweight and self-conscious about look. While less physically practical, the benefits I found here was the pressure on my chest has acted like a thunder vest and helped my comfort. And there are still days I'm like "I don't feel like going with these additions to clothing & things. OK, going simple with less."
So the current in essence lessons from all this has been a... liberation from the societal definitions & restrictions. A real opportunity to find out ALL the options that help me feel like I'm getting what I want from life. That I'm getting to be me as I am, not the one society and indoctrination says I must be.
Part of why I've always been a supporter of LGBTQ community and focus. It's being comfortable with yourself, loving yourself, and loving others who are doing the same! And if who I am is changing that's fine! Being static is much the same as death, and we all know there is plenty of death & hate in the world without adding more.
Ongoing process with all this, but being greygender is much like being a Grey Jedi or wizard. Benefits exist on all sides and the fusion of these balance themselves out.