"I have two really great friends and I love them both soooo very much! ..but....they hate each other! They were friends at one time and had a big falling out.. they go back and forth on social media at each other and i see it all cause I'm friends with them both. They are always asking me questions about the other. I was pretty much given an ultimatum I have to choose which one to be my friend. They both said they will not talk to me anymore if i talk to the other! I love them both and have known both since i was a kid. I'm so sad right now. What do i do? How do I handle the situation? I don't wanna lose one friend and i especially don't wanna lose two. How should i go about this? Please help!!!" @mandy117
Responding SG: @eirenne
Hi babe!
Thanks so much for sharing your story. I’m really sorry to hear your friends are putting you in such an uncomfortable position. It seems clear that both of these ladies are good friends of yours and very important to you, so it honestly sucks they’re asking you to make such a difficult and life-altering choice.
Considering the fact that life is short, I firmly believe that you should be the only one to say who can or cannot be your friend. If either of these people were a romantic partner, maybe I’d look at things differently. But, trust me when I say, you’re not harming either lady by continuing both friendships. YOU have to make that decision yourself.
I recommend reminding each lady that they’re both life-long friends of yours and it really isn’t fair that they’re trying to force you to choose between them. Perhaps suggest they simply avoid each other on social media; maybe even by blocking one another. You can make plans to hang out with them on separate days, when you’re with one - don’t talk about the other negatively in conversation, and communicate with them beforehand if there’s a chance they’ll show up at the same event. In the end, if either lady is upset at you for trying to save both of your friendships then they were never a true friend to begin with.
I hope this response is helpful for you, girl. I’m so sorry again that you’re dealing with this. Sending you tons of good vibes and well wishes!
xoxo
@Eirenne Suicide <3
