I've never been in a relationship when my gf and I were into BDSM or any kinks. My last gf discussed bedroom play from time to time. Closest "kink" was when my last gf loved me finger her and make her squirt. Rough fingering with middle and ring finger fingering up and down instead of in and out. She liked dirty talk though. She would tell me to "fuck me like you hate me". She wasn't into choking but liked hair pulling. That's the most "extreme" my bedroom play ever got. If I ever had the chance I'd like to try some bdsm and other kinks with s significant other. I obviously want a gf who is beautiful and has a great personality but more adventurous in the bedroom would be great. Not a deal breaker though. Having sex is awesome but first two traits are more important. Thanks for listening!