Tonight my ex contacted me. I had texted her a few days ago in response to an open question we had between us: can we be friends? I noted the amount of devastation our ability to function as a couple had taken on me and told her what I was currently doing with myself as a sort of farewell consolation. Much to my surprise she texted me back and she definitely wants me to come back to her.
In the few months we've been apart I've heard many stories about this ex that have concerned me greatly. In one she applied for a job claiming I was her husband, in another there is an account a possible affair I was not aware of. In the first case I'm worried about why she would claim she was my wife, I mean who does that? In the second case things get complex. When I was with this woman I got a few texts that didn't make sense. It was like I was getting one part of a conversation someone had texted me by mistake. Every time I confronted her about this it lead to complete non response. The only reason I was able to look the other way was because her kids were very honest and she often never had a means to go anywhere to cheat on me. With recent information from friends though I have figured out that she was keeping the lines open in case her and I failed.
She has trust issues and I get that completely but I gave her everything I had and asked nothing in return. All she did was accuse me of things I wasn't doing and the fucked up part is I honestly believed her for a while. In the end what made me call it quits was a horrible snowstorm, a white knuckle drive home, and shoveling just to get there. I had been there for her despite a lot of extreme doubt but the one night when I really needed her she broke up with me as a means to "test our relationship".
I let her know I don't want to talk to her anymore and hopefully she won't.