darcsaint

Incoming theory...tickling at the back of my mind...

I used to think that confidence was balance. The balance between arrogance and humility. I realize now that this is true, but it's ultimately irrelevant. Kinda like talking about politics and saying, "people suck". That's (subjectively) true, but it misses the point. In the example, the point of politics is (theoretically) to help us all move past our suckitude and work together. But I digress.

In the case of the confidence/balance theory, I'm coming to find more and more that confidence is not about balance per se, but rather about being oneself. It sounds trite, but hear me out.

Secondary Theory: The more that one is comfortable with oneself, the one that one accepts and loves what one is, the greater the...intensity (for lack of a better word) of that person in terms of interpersonal relationships. These relationships can be as ephemeral as a conversation, or as long as a lifelong marriage.

(Note: there is a thought forming that indicates that this...acceptance also correlates with the degree of passion that someone has for something. The thing itself is irrelevant: what matters is that the person has a passion for it. The relationship between a passion for something and intensity is unknown, and may not exist.)

Primary Theory: The "intensity" of a person correlates directly, and in fact may be the same as, that person's confidence.

Edit: If one considers that the subject of one's passion may be another man/woman, this theory comes together rather nicely...