So another week and I'm still jobless...I feel like a bum. The thing that sucks is I know a lot of you have it a lot tougher than me so I hate complaining. Most of you work a bunch of jobs and scratch and claw your way every day. Well I definitely salute you...but I'm still going to bitch.
Ok, A.D.D. time...in other news, I've got a possible problem brewing in the relationship department. I've been seeing this girl recently and she's been really great for me, but I think its getting too serious and I dont know if I want that right now.
For one, she is a widow...her husband died 2 years ago, so there are a lot of feelings and emotions still there that concern me. I read her blogs sometimes and I know she still is mourning and has a lot of lingering emotions (which she should have). I feel like Im taking advantage of her sometimes...
Second, she has a son, which I'm fine with, but worried about at the same time. I don't want to get attached or have him get attached and then something happens between me and his mom. I met the kid today for the first time and you can tell he needs a male around. He was so excited to see me, wanted to play with me and didnt want me to leave. I was a little scared by that, he didnt even know I'm seeing his mom...he thought I was the repair man! (I was fixing a light fixture for her)
Third, she is foreign and has lived in this country only for a few years, so there are a lot of differences that I dont know if I can deal with down the road. I know thats a bit superficial, but it has been bothering me a bit.
Anyway, I'd love to hear what you guys have to say about this. I know I'm a bit of a commitment-phobe but some input would be greatly appreciated no matter what....
Ok, A.D.D. time...in other news, I've got a possible problem brewing in the relationship department. I've been seeing this girl recently and she's been really great for me, but I think its getting too serious and I dont know if I want that right now.
For one, she is a widow...her husband died 2 years ago, so there are a lot of feelings and emotions still there that concern me. I read her blogs sometimes and I know she still is mourning and has a lot of lingering emotions (which she should have). I feel like Im taking advantage of her sometimes...
Second, she has a son, which I'm fine with, but worried about at the same time. I don't want to get attached or have him get attached and then something happens between me and his mom. I met the kid today for the first time and you can tell he needs a male around. He was so excited to see me, wanted to play with me and didnt want me to leave. I was a little scared by that, he didnt even know I'm seeing his mom...he thought I was the repair man! (I was fixing a light fixture for her)
Third, she is foreign and has lived in this country only for a few years, so there are a lot of differences that I dont know if I can deal with down the road. I know thats a bit superficial, but it has been bothering me a bit.
Anyway, I'd love to hear what you guys have to say about this. I know I'm a bit of a commitment-phobe but some input would be greatly appreciated no matter what....
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how long have u been seeing this girl? Where is she from since she's foreign? I would give it more time before you start involving the son. I remember my mom saw this guy for a year and he got involved with my brother and I right off and became like a real father to us..but then they ended up splitting and it was very painful for all of us. She sounds like she's got a lot of circumstance going on
but.. here's some red flag warnings to watch out for (being that im a chick with a kid and all, i know what chicks pull)
~how long you been seeing her? did she want you to meet the kid in say... less that 3 months into seeing her? (red flag.. looking for a daddy, i wouldnt let my BF near my daughter until about 4 months.. just so ya know its past the fluffy stage)
~has she brought up how she'd like to get married again.. more than once? has she mentioned you meeting her folks? (again.. shouldnt be less than 3 months here.. ideally 6 months.. but peopl are weak with their feelings)
okee.. enough with the negative.. if you could see yourself with this girl in the long run.. dont sweat shit now.. it'll work itself out if it was meant to be
and dont try and label your relationship.. thats a big boooboo lotsa people make.
example: "umm.. can we talk for a bit... where do you think we're going.. are we seeing other people, blah blah blah"
just let things have the room they need to "be"