I went to see my friend Ginny and she opened up to me about a problem. She broke up with the guy of her dreams about 5 months ago, it was a nasty breakup but she still loves him. She says there is not a day that goes by that she does not think of him.
Her best friend, a guy was just out to visit and she found out that her ex is dating one of her girlfriends. She says she is OK with that as they said that no matter what they would eventually be together.
The breakup was due to him not paying attention to her, that happens after you are in a relationship for a while, you seem to forget what you had originally and you just go over get it on and go home. When the breakup was about a week old a tape of her having sex with a guy when she was 18 came out. Of all things his mother got the tape and showed it to him. It was just two people having sex on camera for something to do.
She says she is not happy with the tape still being around, but it was something that seemed to be fun at the time. The fact that it came out bothers her.
She missed him terribly. So she called him and left a message. She asked me would I call her back. I thought about the whole situation.
They had dated 4 years. This happened before they went out. In this day and age it is not reasonable to think that someone you are dating may not have been intimate with someone before. As long as when you are with someone you are there for them, and them alone and dont do something stupid and compare previous lovers. Like his dick was much bigger, he loved to go down on me, why dont you etc, then I feel that what happened yesterday stays in the past.
Would I call her, yes, if I had 4 years invested even if it is completely over, it is time to say goodbye. She needs closure.
I don't know if I am right, but I think saying goodbye is what I would do.
I have a few questions.
Did she make a mistake by not telling him about the tape? I don't think so because she didnt think it would ever come up and it was something done on the spur of the moment. What do you think?
Would you return her call or just not call and your silence says it is over.
What is your opinion?
Her best friend, a guy was just out to visit and she found out that her ex is dating one of her girlfriends. She says she is OK with that as they said that no matter what they would eventually be together.
The breakup was due to him not paying attention to her, that happens after you are in a relationship for a while, you seem to forget what you had originally and you just go over get it on and go home. When the breakup was about a week old a tape of her having sex with a guy when she was 18 came out. Of all things his mother got the tape and showed it to him. It was just two people having sex on camera for something to do.
She says she is not happy with the tape still being around, but it was something that seemed to be fun at the time. The fact that it came out bothers her.
She missed him terribly. So she called him and left a message. She asked me would I call her back. I thought about the whole situation.
They had dated 4 years. This happened before they went out. In this day and age it is not reasonable to think that someone you are dating may not have been intimate with someone before. As long as when you are with someone you are there for them, and them alone and dont do something stupid and compare previous lovers. Like his dick was much bigger, he loved to go down on me, why dont you etc, then I feel that what happened yesterday stays in the past.
Would I call her, yes, if I had 4 years invested even if it is completely over, it is time to say goodbye. She needs closure.
I don't know if I am right, but I think saying goodbye is what I would do.
I have a few questions.
Did she make a mistake by not telling him about the tape? I don't think so because she didnt think it would ever come up and it was something done on the spur of the moment. What do you think?
Would you return her call or just not call and your silence says it is over.
What is your opinion?
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I would return her call. I'm just polite that way.
That is a shitty situation, but frankly, what makes her think he would pay any more attention to her than he had before? And honestly, if he holds that tape against her, he is not worth a shit anyway. Just my vicious two cents.
My leg had me fucking scared. I'm still planning on seeing a doctor when I leave here though.
~cheers