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It's the end of week 2 at the new company, and I've really hit the ground running. I'm feeling less overwhelmed and quietly confident that I am going to do well here. I think my Publisher has aleady started to develop some trust in me as I have been seeing prospective clients since Week 1, made countless phone calls in an open plan environment, and she is pretty much leaving me alone. She is a Leo, like my previous Fearless Leader. This lady is about 8 years younger than me, and very hard working. She is not one of these Leos that needs constant ego boosting., so it's a wonderful change. All I need to do is collaborate with her occasionally, make her feel loved, and I can stay left to my own devices. Of course I have to deliver too. Six weeks to sell two magazines with a Sept cover date, and the task of keeping the weekly glossy ticking along until we find someone to help me. Busy. Big budget, but I thnk I can nail it, even with bugger all time up my sleeve.

My man is working odd hours again with the Wold Cup, and doing weekends, so we are passing each other like ships in the night. More often than not we are bloody tired and happy to just veg on the sofa - We sound lke a married couple already!

Our relationship is still dynamic, despite the routines of late.

I had an interesting proposition come up the other day which I flagged to my man. Before he met me, I was very involved in the Sydney BDSM scene, particularly in the "girls" scene. I went to a lot of play parties and dipped into some interesting sexual and non-sexual BDSM scenes. A friend of mine had a poetry gathering not so long ago, and she used to organise the odd BDSM event. She asked me: " Now that you are an engaged woman, are you Allowed to play with us still"?

Allowed? She asked a Dominant if I was allowed? My man also comes across as "Dominant" so she naturally assumed that I must be taking a more Submissive role in the relationship. Utter Codswallop! Gender stereotyping at its best.

I mentioned this discussion to my Man, and even He smirked at the "Allowed". He and I have an Equal relationship and communicate openly about everything without censorship - even the hard stuff.

We don't ask each other permission for anything really - we just throw things open and discuss. Anyway, I was not sure if I wanted to go down the BDSM path again, so we left the subject open.

Yesterday this friend called me and gave me a date for the party. I tentatively accepted and mentioned it to my Man last night. We discussed our boundaries, and what he would have issues with in terms of BDSM play, bordering on sexual play. He could see I missed playing with Submissives, and said He did not feel threatened if I went to a party and did a bit of this and that. He told me what he would find uncomfortable and it turns out that I feel the same way.

So, we are still on the same wave length. He also figured I'd probably come home hot as hell, and he would gladly help me put the "fire out". He continues to surprise me.