So I was chatting with a friend last night, and the topic of good sex/bad sex came up. I confessed that the last sex I had was pretty damn disappointing.
What makes sex good or bad for you? For me, it's three things: connection, openness/freakiness, and relaxation/fun.
There's these performance neuroses men carry around that really fuck with their heads and ruin what could otherwise be pretty good sex; watching porn doesn't help because A) it fosters weird and unrealistic expectations about both men and womens roles and B) it's a set of crappy techniques.
Learning to fuck from porn is like learning to fight from watching cowboy movies.
The last round of sexual adventures for CK involved a woman named Ana, who was awfully tenseenough so that I wondered if she really wanted to be there. Not fun at all. She wasn't someone who'd had much (if any) good sex, and she really couldn't shake loose. She liked sex in *principle*, but if she was ever liking the practice, she chose not to share that fact. Needless to say we didn't go for thirds. There was seconds to be sure the firsts weren't a fluke and that was the end of that.
Ana had another guy concurrent with me, and she complained that he would just "put it in and start going as fast as he could." Blech. I asked, "did he always want to pull it out and come on you?" She was all, "how did you know?"
The poor SOB was trying to replicate a porn movie.
Now, don't get me wrong; we loveses the porn, precious. I just don't confuse it for reality. I love cowboy movies, too, but I don't try to fight like that! If I did, it would be a head full of spiders and stars, with me coming to trying to stand up with all these motherfuckers standing around watching me and some old guy shaking my arms, saying, "Stay down, son, stay down."
Whuh . . . whuh happn?
TKO, son. What the fuck was that cowboy shit?
What makes sex good or bad for you? For me, it's three things: connection, openness/freakiness, and relaxation/fun.
There's these performance neuroses men carry around that really fuck with their heads and ruin what could otherwise be pretty good sex; watching porn doesn't help because A) it fosters weird and unrealistic expectations about both men and womens roles and B) it's a set of crappy techniques.
Learning to fuck from porn is like learning to fight from watching cowboy movies.
The last round of sexual adventures for CK involved a woman named Ana, who was awfully tenseenough so that I wondered if she really wanted to be there. Not fun at all. She wasn't someone who'd had much (if any) good sex, and she really couldn't shake loose. She liked sex in *principle*, but if she was ever liking the practice, she chose not to share that fact. Needless to say we didn't go for thirds. There was seconds to be sure the firsts weren't a fluke and that was the end of that.
Ana had another guy concurrent with me, and she complained that he would just "put it in and start going as fast as he could." Blech. I asked, "did he always want to pull it out and come on you?" She was all, "how did you know?"
The poor SOB was trying to replicate a porn movie.
Now, don't get me wrong; we loveses the porn, precious. I just don't confuse it for reality. I love cowboy movies, too, but I don't try to fight like that! If I did, it would be a head full of spiders and stars, with me coming to trying to stand up with all these motherfuckers standing around watching me and some old guy shaking my arms, saying, "Stay down, son, stay down."
Whuh . . . whuh happn?
TKO, son. What the fuck was that cowboy shit?
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weird, but i have to tell someone. i went to the gym over lunchtime. i ran for half an hour, and then i got in the shower and shaved the kitty. it didn't take long, and now she's pretty. softee.
yeah, i just needed to share. do you think that was weird to do at the gym? they're industrial showers, designed for multi-use, but is that really a pro or really a con?
hey, you are going to inform me when you next plan to visit this place, right?