The single best interview I've ever read... Nina Hartley on here... some exerpts for those who've missed it..
There are certainly many people in that world who could be considered pathetic losers but liking porn does not make you such a person. As a stripper I realized that men and women are equally fucked over about sex, but in such different areas we're blind to the other's pain. For certain kinds of guys, women are heartless bitches and cock teases and will bleed you dry before giving you a kiss. And for some women, men are asshole jerks and want one thing. Really, it's the culture keeping them equally ignorant and then saying, "Go off and get married!" Watching the men, just showing them my vulva, I realized how sad it was. No woman in their life had ever said, "Here it is, here's what I like, here's what you can do with it, try it this way." Poor guys are supposed to know what to do...
Guys want to be good with a woman because it's good for their ego and also because then she'll have him back! They're just clueless because our culture does not give us any good messages about sex. I love that about porn, besides the fact it's where the naked women were because it's hard to get naked chicks to go home with you...
So anybody can be like me, which is getting rid of guilt and shame about sex and your desires. You can have whatever desires you want once you stop repressing, being stressed over and suppressing and all the things we do when we don't want to face the truth of our desires. They are what they are...
Frankly I'd like to see less sex in advertising and more freedom in private...
I'm not just bisexual. I'm very inter-gendered. I like being a girl. Yet I love women the way men love women. And I take pride in my ability to be a satisfying and a good lover to women. Besides, I liked having people look at me naked, even if they were guys. Guys are fun! And I found out that the more nudity there is, the better-behaved men are. Absent beer. It's like, if you do this, the naked tits will stay. OK. I can do that! Men are very rule oriented. What are the rules for naked boobs being in the room? I'll follow those rules. Let me know what they are and don't change in the middle. Women do that sometimes. That can be very annoying. I realized that part of my power over men is in not hating him for wanting to look. He's a straight guy; of course he wants to look at naked women! Duh!... I'm actually helping you with your next girlfriend. I'm showing you, here's what works for me, try it on her. Men are hungry for information from an actual female who'll actually say something to them about it.
-Nina Hartley
There are certainly many people in that world who could be considered pathetic losers but liking porn does not make you such a person. As a stripper I realized that men and women are equally fucked over about sex, but in such different areas we're blind to the other's pain. For certain kinds of guys, women are heartless bitches and cock teases and will bleed you dry before giving you a kiss. And for some women, men are asshole jerks and want one thing. Really, it's the culture keeping them equally ignorant and then saying, "Go off and get married!" Watching the men, just showing them my vulva, I realized how sad it was. No woman in their life had ever said, "Here it is, here's what I like, here's what you can do with it, try it this way." Poor guys are supposed to know what to do...
Guys want to be good with a woman because it's good for their ego and also because then she'll have him back! They're just clueless because our culture does not give us any good messages about sex. I love that about porn, besides the fact it's where the naked women were because it's hard to get naked chicks to go home with you...
So anybody can be like me, which is getting rid of guilt and shame about sex and your desires. You can have whatever desires you want once you stop repressing, being stressed over and suppressing and all the things we do when we don't want to face the truth of our desires. They are what they are...
Frankly I'd like to see less sex in advertising and more freedom in private...
I'm not just bisexual. I'm very inter-gendered. I like being a girl. Yet I love women the way men love women. And I take pride in my ability to be a satisfying and a good lover to women. Besides, I liked having people look at me naked, even if they were guys. Guys are fun! And I found out that the more nudity there is, the better-behaved men are. Absent beer. It's like, if you do this, the naked tits will stay. OK. I can do that! Men are very rule oriented. What are the rules for naked boobs being in the room? I'll follow those rules. Let me know what they are and don't change in the middle. Women do that sometimes. That can be very annoying. I realized that part of my power over men is in not hating him for wanting to look. He's a straight guy; of course he wants to look at naked women! Duh!... I'm actually helping you with your next girlfriend. I'm showing you, here's what works for me, try it on her. Men are hungry for information from an actual female who'll actually say something to them about it.
-Nina Hartley
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i was really impressed with that interview too, when i read it. she's really not what you would expect from a porn star.