So, a few months ago I posted a really lengthy blog about my struggles with my ex-bestfriend and his cheating boyfriend. It is ridiculously long, but if you want to read it here is a link: Original Post
This is an update to that story because more happened. About 2 weeks ago my ex-bestfriend contacted on my birthday with a really long message. Some of it stating that he did a lot of wrong and that he would like to talk. I chose to give myself the opportunity to lay everything on the table for him. That talk happened about a week and a half ago. I listed out every way that he had done wrong to me and told him that none of his words or actions were ok. I was more blunt and honest with him than I've ever been because I really had stopped caring about his feelings. He apologized for everything and said that he knew that he made unfixable damage. We left it with him telling me that the next steps are completely up to me. He wanted to rebuild a friendship with me, but I have all the power of saying yes or no.
He was my best friend for 4 years and so I think that there is potential to rebuild a friendship, but I told him that we never will be what we used to be. Essentially, that friendship is dead and never going to be revived. However, we can begin to build a new friendship out of this mutual respect and maturity that he is finally coming into. I just feel so strange because for a few months I got used to the feeling of not being his friend and not really mentioning him. I guess I just have to look at him as a new person. It is a bit hard when he is still dating the same guy, but he is going to respect my boundaries and not even talk about him around me since he knows how I feel about the boyfriend as a person.
What would you do? Am I making the right choice in letting him back in?
