So this doesn't apply to me personally, but this story got me thinking. My boyfriend does not know his biological father, his parents got divorced when he was a baby and since then has had no contact. He doesn't talk a lot about his biological father often, but when he does its usually something along the lines of "I have no interest in meeting him, I want nothing to do with him, he want to meet me so badly he can contact me" and for as long as I have known him this has always been the answer when I ask. When it comes to stuff like this I'm not a pushy person, I know enough people with fucked up families to have learned you let them come to these decisions on their own. Well this evening he sits me down to tell me that, he want to write a letter to his Bio Dad and get to know him, which is a big deal, but he looks at me and say's "what do I say?" Which got me thinking, what does one say to a man who left you when you were too small to remember and in the 25 years you've been alive has never bothered to contact you, no letter, nothing. As I'm writing this I'm watching him sit wracking his brains as to what to say.... He jokes about calling him an asshole and saying fuck you for leaving, but when he says it we both know he's not kidding. It kills me to watch him struggle with the pain he's been harboring about his dad. Don't get me wrong he has fantastic step father who had fulfilled his role as his father above and beyond, but that curiosity about who you came from, odd unexplainable quirks, hobbies, can never be explained. I have no idea how this is all going to turn out or if this is even a good idea. All I can hope is that he gets what ever he is looking for out of it and doesn't get hurt in the process.
